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Azure Jane Lunatic (Azz) 🌺 ([personal profile] azurelunatic) wrote2010-03-14 05:25 am
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Doctor's Orders (bdsm, nonspecific, unfiltered)

A brief reminder, for people who inhabit the intersection of disability, kink, and having play partners: INFORMATION IS GOOD. Disclosures are sometimes necessary.

You needn't necessarily spill the whole list of Things What Mustn't be Done and Conditions, depending on the depth (or lack thereof) in the relationship, but a simple "I have some health issues; I know my limits and I'll let you know about them if I suspect they are going to come up or if something happens; in case of emergency, I have a card with information in my bag/pants pocket/with the person at the other end of that leash" is unlikely to be out of order. 99 times out of 100, 999 times out of 1000, that card may not be necessary. That 100th or 1000th time, depending on the situation, it could save your life by giving someone the right knowledge to assist you properly, or at least keep them from panicking and seeing that you get proper care.

In other generally related news, with the help of IRC I thought of a niche service that may well be going unfilled: housecall dominants for people with disabilities. Disability may be affecting a person's ability to go out and look for an appropriate partner, if they are not lucky enough to have one at home; people with disabilities need appropriate-to-them caring-for too. A dominant service that specializes in creative work to avoid causing assorted forms of failure and badness, and with side education in medical care to back that up (not only would the dom know kink, but know how a given disability is likely to affect a person straight out of the box, and how to learn each person's situation's quirks quickly), might actually be a really good thing for someone. (And why should homebound submissives and switches be the ones to get all the fun from this service? Why should not a homebound dominant have the enjoyment of ordering around a submissive who is also trained in personal care?) And apparently some correctly applied play is good for some sorts of chronic pain.

It's vaporware, but since it could be useful, I'm sending it off into the aether where it might actually be picked up by someone who could do something with it, make it happen, provide a useful service to people who could really use a little more fun. ;)
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[personal profile] pengolodh_sc 2010-03-15 09:14 pm (UTC)(link)
You might have trouble getting a housecall dominants legally classified as not being prostitution, I would think.
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[personal profile] jumpuphigh 2010-03-17 11:28 am (UTC)(link)
This post is making me add you to my circle.
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[personal profile] jumpuphigh 2010-03-21 02:54 am (UTC)(link)
Poodles as service dogs. That's not something you see every day.
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[personal profile] jumpuphigh 2010-03-21 02:59 am (UTC)(link)
How did the pilot work out?

There are some people in Tucson, AZ trying to train greyhounds who failed at racing to be service dogs. I'd have to question the wisdom of using any sight hounds as a service dog; too many triggers.
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[personal profile] jumpuphigh 2010-03-21 03:20 am (UTC)(link)
They are excellent companion animals and the ones I've met are calm in general. They are very lazy dogs. However, any dog that you can't trust off-lead is not going to make a good service dog. It's an unfortunate truth. Plus, they aren't socialized as puppies in the ways that dogs need to be socialized in order to succeed as service animals. They live their lives on the track in cages with opportunities to exercise. Which means - no exposure to babies, crowded stores, dogs other than other greyhounds, home environments, bicycles, umbrellas popping open, vacuum cleaners, and the list goes on and on.
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[personal profile] jumpuphigh 2010-03-21 03:26 am (UTC)(link)
There is a reason black labs are used so often.
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[personal profile] sofiaviolet 2010-03-21 03:47 pm (UTC)(link)
My aunt has a poodle service dog; he was trained by her daughter, although I don't know if they ever finished the paperwork to have him fully certified.
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[personal profile] jumpuphigh 2010-03-21 06:43 pm (UTC)(link)
I think that none-typical breeds are always interesting as service dogs. I once met a cattle dog who was a service dog. :)
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[personal profile] orbitaldiamonds 2010-03-18 01:46 am (UTC)(link)
I love this post, and as with [profile] jumpinguphigh, it is making me add you to my circle. :)

(deleted the other one because it was a double, sorry)
Edited 2010-03-18 01:48 (UTC)
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[personal profile] orbitaldiamonds 2010-03-21 06:47 am (UTC)(link)
Sounds like my blogging style. :P

[personal profile] axelrod 2010-03-19 03:31 am (UTC)(link)
briefly cuz look at the time!

cool idea!

vaporware? I kinda get it from context but explication is welcome.

[identity profile] 2010-03-14 08:18 pm (UTC)(link)
I think people might be more concerned about going to an unvetted person's house to be a sub than to be a dom. It seems easier to set limits as a dom. And I would worry about the safety of the sub. Yes, most doms will be perfectly fine people who respect limits, but some people may call themselves doms and have insufficient knowledge of how to do things safely or insufficient respect for safewords, and that would worry me. And it's simply easier to walk away if someone is causing problems if you're not tied up (yes, untie the other person first if they are and all... but you can have a real problem if you're physically restrained and then the other person turns out to be a serious problem).