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azurelunatic) wrote2002-12-14 08:26 am
azurelunatic) wrote2002-12-14 08:26 am
Morning, life skills
Bright & early & awake. Got my breakfast. Have noticed that a good time to have a few quiet words about stuff with Nephew is early in the mornings, while he's at his most alert and processing, after he's fully woken up, but before he's had a chance to act up about something. Don't always do it, but sometimes I do.
This morning, had a few words with him on the topic of being demanding. He's been doing that lately, and that gets old fast. He told me that the tag in his pants was poking him and he needed it out. I asked him how he was supposed to say that, he asked please, I took it out, waited, asked him what he said then. Thank you. I threw the tag out and asked him what would have happened if, when he'd asked me to take the tag out of his pants, if I'd told him "Not right now, I'm busy." Would he have said "Okay," and asked later, or would he have made a fuss about it?
That was a real poser for him, and got him thinking. I said that I hoped that he would be polite and ask again later when we weren't so busy. Then I told him how when he was a baby and couldn't understand later or do things himself, we had to do everything for him right away, because he couldn't do it and couldn't understand, but now that he's a big boy, he can do things himself and learn to wait!
Nephew is big on the growing up thing, and likes to hear affirmations that he's getting more grown-up and he's not a baby anymore. By tying learning to wait in with doing things himself as a sign of growing up, this should hopefully add to patience.
This morning, had a few words with him on the topic of being demanding. He's been doing that lately, and that gets old fast. He told me that the tag in his pants was poking him and he needed it out. I asked him how he was supposed to say that, he asked please, I took it out, waited, asked him what he said then. Thank you. I threw the tag out and asked him what would have happened if, when he'd asked me to take the tag out of his pants, if I'd told him "Not right now, I'm busy." Would he have said "Okay," and asked later, or would he have made a fuss about it?
That was a real poser for him, and got him thinking. I said that I hoped that he would be polite and ask again later when we weren't so busy. Then I told him how when he was a baby and couldn't understand later or do things himself, we had to do everything for him right away, because he couldn't do it and couldn't understand, but now that he's a big boy, he can do things himself and learn to wait!
Nephew is big on the growing up thing, and likes to hear affirmations that he's getting more grown-up and he's not a baby anymore. By tying learning to wait in with doing things himself as a sign of growing up, this should hopefully add to patience.
good one
D.E.
Re: good one
I seem to have that little inbuilt translator function...