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Azure Jane Lunatic (Azz) 🌺 ([personal profile] azurelunatic) wrote2003-09-17 07:06 pm

Former friends

When you have a friend, and you get in a relationship with the friend, and somehow, the relationship turns into a tug-of-war control-fest, with each party trying to 0wn and manipulate the other, with the relationship as implied consent for same, it's very hard to trust them -- or yourself -- again.

So the friendship is pretty much toast, after that.

Friendlies

[identity profile] woggie.livejournal.com 2003-09-18 12:26 am (UTC)(link)
Much depends on the amount of prevarication around the bush, but if communication lines are open and nobody'e afraid of being honest while talking without getting angry, then more can be done with such a relationship.

Yeah, yeah, sounds ideal until you do it, and then it al becomes very hard work. Sometimes it's easier to pull yourself back and let go. The tough part is not blaming while letting go, and not saying "this is the end". It's sort of a suspension of disbelief.

Your mileage may vary, of course. :p