Vacation: Friday afternoon

[azurelunatic]

teenagewitch turned out to be in the lab, and she was looking absolutely exhausted, tired, drained, and unhappy. She also had a goblet with her, a blue glass cup with a pewter dragon on it, a cup that her stalker had given to her when they were still friends.

She and Adam and I chatted for a while, and then I tried picking up the cup.

It was not a good feeling in my hand. "Let's take this to the bathroom and wash it right now," I said.

It wound up that we ended up walking to my apartment, with the cup wrapped up in newspaper. It was not a good feeling on my hand, a too-hot and tingly sensation, like maggots, squirmy, wrong, rotten.

Votania took one look at Sabrina, one look at the cup, and whisked Sabrina into the bathroom for a nice cleansing bath, and subjected the cup to some holy water and some private actions while I mixed Sabrina some of my kickass chicken and rice soup, perfect for the person who's been dealing with nasties and can't keep anything down because of it.

Sabrina hung out at our apartment for a few hours until Adam was about out of class; I went and got my paycheck in the bank. Votania and I did some more cleaning and cooking.

One of Votania's old friends brought his PS2 by, and Nephew got to play with some of the games, especially the disk with the Monsters, Inc. demo on it, which also had Sesame Street Sports as a demo, and a Hot Wheels Racing demo.

As we hadn't had the opportunity to review the Yule observation as a group, we did this before beginning. It was typed out on my laptop, so after appropriate editing to fit the requirements of those present, we placed the laptop in a place of honor on the altar.

Shamash, our cat, elected to participate also. He's such a huggable bit of animated fur, and so beautiful and creative.

Darkside had given Nephew Shrek, so we watched that after the observance of Yule. I got a call from Adam, right in the middle of the movie, and he was rather upset. It seemed that he had seen Sabrina home on Thursday, since she was so generally weakened from dealing with this asshole of a stalker, and he'd stayed there perhaps longer than he ought to have. His parents, especially his dad, had not reacted well to his having violated the terms of his restriction (21 years old, and grounded for grades!) and decided to set up rent, and fines for the next violations. Adam was most unhappy.

I leaned on Neighbor watching the movie. Neighbor is a wonderful big pillow with fluffy hair.

We all finally crashed around 2 in the morning.

Comments

[fosfomifira.livejournal.com]

No amount of cleansing will do. I did everything I could with the things the stalker had given me (my first tarot deck). It seemed enough for a while, but then he came back into my life. That night I burnt down all the black candles I could find, I played the loudest, most violent and angry music I have and I threw all his gifts away. For a while I thought maybe someone could put to good use the tarot decks and books, but in the end I decided against it. If I kept them then he still had some power over me, because they were a reminder of his existance.

[azurelunatic]

That's not a good thing. I'll keep my eye out for that happening... she's decided that she adores the chalice...

[iroshi.livejournal.com]

I think you need to do more than cleanse. Try making sure you search for, detect, and cut all connections. Cleanse with water, fire, salt (or earth) and wind.

Personally I would take it into circle with me, use Othersight and find any cords attached to it, and ritually cut all the connections (with either an astral blade or your athame). Then pass it through the fire, bury it in the earth for a day or two, wash it thoroughly with blessed water, and hold it in the wind, letting the elements scour any traces away from the person who gave it to you.

The connections *can* be removed. Make sure the owner of the chalice is thoroughly involved in all ritual required to cleanse it. Make her as much a part of it as possible, so that she internalizes that it is cleansed, renewed, a new thing, and not connected to the person who gave it to her. If she continues to have a connection between the two in her mind, no amount of cleansing and cutting of cords will stop him from recreating the connection if she gives him that avenue to use.

If he had *created* the chalice, there would be no way to remove his connection to it. But that is not the case. The connection to him is not forged in its being, merely added onto it, and *can* be burned away.