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Azure Jane Lunatic (Azz) 🌺 ([personal profile] azurelunatic) wrote2004-03-14 01:33 am

Timely Reminder (body issues & my opinion of the Diet Indu$try)

The diet industry, collectively, are Ferengi. For those not automatically grokking this, it's a Star Trek reference: the Ferengi are a society of profit-driven aliens, who do not give a flying fuck about ethics, kindness, or the well-being of others as long as doing what they are doing will turn them a profit or gain them other advantage. Discworld fans, note CMOT Dibbler.

Greater awareness of health issues and how to gain and maintain a healthy, smoothly-working body are good things. The diet industry is not really after that. The diet industry is focused on selling people on the idea that they should be dissatisfied with their bodies as they are, and the idea that only (their specific) $PRODUCT_OR_SERVICE can effectively change the cause of the dissatisfaction.

One of the many toxic things about the diet industry that I very much dislike is their collective addiction to drastic measures. You should immediately begin walking a mile a day or having epic workouts. You should immediately drop eating whatever you were eating and start eating their idea of a good thing. You should replace all your meals with their handy product and only eat according to their plan, and repent mightily if you slip, for you have so totally sinned. Some people can adjust happily to drastic measures. Some people can only do it as long as they see immediate results. Some people can try drastic measures briefly, but find it inconvenient and alien and soon find that the benefits of the regime are outweighed by the hassles.

It's those last two categories of people, of course, who the entire industry is aimed at, with new and different fad diets that they haven't tried before, new and interesting exercise types and machines. Perhaps this one will work. Perhaps I can maintain interest in that. Maybe I won't quit this time. I feel so lousy for quitting when all those people stuck with it and saw results. I'm such a loser.

If you're not a person who reacts well to drastic changes in anything, why the fuck are you trying to do that with food and exercise in the first place? Trying to do things against your own nature leaves you fighting yourself, and devoting more energy trying to leap over walls when you could be quietly edging around them. Of course I can't maintain a habit of working out violently for half an hour a day for more than a few days when I'm not used to doing it. Of course after five days of sticking to a draconian diet plan I get hungry and commit what would be reckoned at five mortal sins by eating something I've been dying for. I'm not psychologically set up to handle that sort of thing. I'm a fucking procrastinator, and I take the path of least resistance. Why the hell is the diet industry glaring at me? Because they're trying to play off that and guilt trip me, and I have fucking had it with their bullshit, because what I can discern of their tactics by seeing ads only serve to make me even more fucking pissed off. They are trying to convince me to hate myself because their plan which is not formulated for someone of my psychset is not working? I don't fucking think so.

The only reason I'm working out right now and losing weight is because I was able to trick myself into thinking that I could actually continue doing what I was doing without making any major rearrangements of what I was doing and still get in a little bit of exercise. A recent study showed that instead of it taking an hour of exercise a day to maintain weight, it only took half an hour. "Hell," I thought. "I spend half an hour a day on housework." So I decided that I could make sure I spent at least half an hour a day in motion. And I just started timing it. I realized that I was spending about 20 to 25 minutes a day moving. "I can tweak that up," I thought, and started timing when I walked. Timing it led to poking it up just a little more every day. I was shocked when I started noticing that I was getting less tired, having more energy, and even wanted to walk extra. This happened over a period of several months, hardly overnight. At the beginning, I tried setting half an hour aside to just boogey righteously. That didn't work so well. That was disruptive to my knees and my schedule, and I quit it. I kept walking, though, because I didn't have much choice in that, since I don't have a car.

Some people can change lifestyles effortlessly, or make it look effortless, or worse, make it look like you can make a drastic change just by deciding to, and imply that if they did it, you can, and if you can't make that change by deciding to, you lack willpower, because, after all, they did it, even though they didn't like it. There's no place in the diet industry for lazy bastards who need to take things a little bit at a time, because the diet industry makes its money off of people who yo-yo diet, going on health binges, then stopping, then going back on another health binge -- which is one of the worst things you can do for your health. It's possible to gain 100 pounds from yo-yo dieting, people. Don't do it. If someone actually is able to make a drastic lifestyle change all at once and stick with it -- great. More power to you. But know that you are probably in the minority, and just because it worked for you, doesn't mean that it's going to work for anyone else who isn't psychologically set up to make some drastic change. If you expect someone else to make drastic change because you were able to, and use yourself as a good example, do realize that you're setting the person you're trying to help up for a serious case of self-loathing, and yourself up to be loathed by them for making them feel that way, even though you were only trying to help. That your intentions were good still doesn't change the fact that the person you were trying to help only wants you to shut up about how Noble and Righteous you are before someone gets a fist in the face.

Unfortunately, the loudness of the diet industry and their use of atypical cases with immediate results and inhuman tenacity makes it so that people who actually are doing things for themselves and doing it right, and then letting loose with some hard-earned "Yay me! I feel so great about myself!" get flak from people who are sick of the diet industry. They get accused of shoving how Noble, Righteous, and Better Than Thou they are in the faces of those who can't begin to live up to their shining example, even when they were just celebrating something they did right, and not intending to imply that anyone else should be doing the same.

People are generally apt to lash out at someone who's making them feel like hell. If the diet industry makes people feel like hell, people are going to avoid anything that smacks of "health-conscious bullshit" in self-overprotection for something that they know doesn't have their best interests at heart. This makes things worse for health-oriented education and advocacy, when people are avoiding the diet industry to protect themselves, and have gotten overly cynical of anything that resembes the latest diet industry buzzwords. If people are actively neglecting their health to give the diet industry one in the eye, it becomes a self-reinforcing cycle -- the diet industry attempts to prey on low self esteem in people neglecting their own health, making people more defensive and less likely to actually do something to improve their health before drastic measures are deemed necessary.

So, if the diet industry is going about it wrong, how does a lazy bastard start working to improve health? Just pick one little thing that you know is good for you that you don't do enough and try to do it more. Once you've got that down, pick something else. Don't expect to see any results, ever. (You may see some, but expecting to see them starts in with the "I'm not good enough at this" cycle, so just do it because you want to, not because you expect it to make visible change.) Look at nutrition information on food, if you're not, and read up on what all the various components of food do for someone's body. Figure out where you could put a five minute walk into your day. Hell, even a two minute walk. Until you can put a two minute walk into your day, don't even try for a ten minute walk, much less a half hour walk. Drink an extra glass of water. Keep a glass of water by the place where you normally like to spend time. Give someone the finger the next time they propose you make sudden drastic change that you know you'll never be able to maintain. Try to avoid feeling guilty about not having the mindset to make sudden drastic changes when those around you do make sudden drastic changes. Know that you deserve to be in decent health, and you know your body better than the diet industry at large ever will.

[identity profile] snowelf.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 05:41 am (UTC)(link)
If you expect someone else to make drastic change because you were able to, and use yourself as a good example, do realize that you're setting the person you're trying to help up for a serious case of self-loathing, and yourself up to be loathed by them for making them feel that way, even though you were only trying to help. That your intentions were good still doesn't change the fact that the person you were trying to help only wants you to shut up about how Noble and Righteous you are before someone gets a fist in the face.

*applauds* Wish I could have said that to a now ex-friend of mine who went on about how losing weight is easy and all anyone has to do is eat less and exercise more. Sure, he did a big change in his life, and I am glad for his sake, but I just wanted to kill him for being so darn smug about it. Especially when he said that anyone who could't lose weight following his example was weak.

[identity profile] ornjkitty.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 06:07 am (UTC)(link)
Bryan, who until recently (when his association with couch-potato me, in addition to our current financial situation, let it lapse) had a gym membership and worked out just about every day since he was in junior high school, is starting classes to become a personal trainer next month. Realizing that he is out of shape, he consulted one of the "exercise bibles" that he purchased to "tide him over" intellectually until he can pick up his textbooks, and decided that the best kind of exercise he could do without equipment and in a small amount of time was to jog daily around the track at the high school down the street. So, with much anticipation, he got all duded up in his sweat gear yesterday and headed down to the track for an hour or so of fast-paced activity. Fifteen minutes later, he was back, muchly sore and out-of-breath, with the realization that, although he was able to do three laps walking, then three jogging in an hour a few years ago when he did so everyday, it is definitely not possible to get back into it cold after an absence of several years.

While he is not "toned" the way he wants to be to start his program, I would not by any means describe him as "out of shape". He may no longer have the chest of Arnold Schwartzenegger (LOL), but he is still pretty solidly muscular. Consulting the "bible" again, he realized that an hour's worth of alternately walking and jogging put one in the category of "Excellent". Can we say Olympic marathon runners, boys and girls? I know my physical activities extend to one morning every six months or so spent moving around furniture, followed by about three days in bed unable to move. While at one point I walked the half mile to the supermarket every other day to buy the bag of oranges that my ex consumed in two days (because eight oranges makes up the daily fiber requirement, according to some magazine article or other he read), since then I have had either a bus that drops me off a half-block or less from my place of residence or a Bryan to chauffer me around (or a supermarket across a busy highway with no bus service, so I could guilt Dan to drive me there in his car about once a month or so when the cupboards were bare). Being (for the most part), an employed adult, my opportunities (and ENERGY!!!!) for recreational walking deserted me as soon as the appeal of the fad orange diet faded and I no longer had to lug three pounds of oranges around on a tri-weekly basis. [Although Bryan and I have discussed the possibility of taking up pleasure walks through one of the nearby state forests when the weather gets nicer. Take me a while to get to the point where I can walk dirt paths as opposed to pavement, though! More's the pity.]

Anyway, the point of this post (oh yeah, there was one!) is that if someone in reasonable physical shape (i.e., Bryan) just "jump right in" to a draconian exercise plan, how can the rest of us poor shmucks who can't budge our furry arses off the sofa to get a soft drink more than twice an evening (OK, so I'm probably alone in that! LOL) expect to do so?

Congrats on the walking, btw. About fifteen years or so ago (has it really been THAT long?????) when I used to do so recreationally, I understand that it was one of the best exercises you could do, and not merely because it was one of the hardest to accidently injure yourself in doing (because most of us can generally get the instructions down, and do it right, I guess? LOL) More power to ya, girl! You rock!

[identity profile] ornjkitty.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 06:15 am (UTC)(link)
Especially when he said that anyone who could't lose weight following his example was weak.

And what does that say about his sense of self-worth, LOL?
"If I, the lowliest toadstool on the dung heap can do it, you poor schmucks should be able to do it, too. ... Otherwise, you will totally blow my sense of reality, and make me realize that I actually accomplished something difficult, and by myself no less. ... And if you do that, I will have to never speak to you again, for making me appreciate my accomplishments." I think the dumb-arse should be consigned to making teeth-whitening commercials for the rest of his life. :P
[Because that, at least, is "SOOOO easy"! **double :P**]

[identity profile] amarafox.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 06:43 am (UTC)(link)
Came here via snowelf.

I want to print out your post and put it on my parents fridge :P

I don't adapt well to drastic change. I don't diet in the traditional sense, but over the course of 3 years I have lost almost 40 pounds. Yes. It took 3 years. There wasn't any instant gratification. I wasn't even trying to lose weight. I knew I had to so I subtly and slowly changed my lifestyle.

I know people who huff 'Well, on X diet yuo could haev lost that weight in 3 weeks!' to which I say 'Uh.. isn't that UNHEALHTY?'

My mother has always been on the diet of the deacade. in the 80s it was low calorie, in the 90s it was no fat, in the naughties (00!) it's Atkins. It drives me insane.

Mom, that junk food isn't 'poison'. It's junk food. Bread isn't 'poison', french fries aren't 'poison'. That diet coke you're drinking? Well. Aspartame IS a poison (in high enough doses). :P

My whole take on life is 'Everything in Moderation'. It's a slow path, but suitable for the lazy and those who don't fall into the body image trap but know they have to lose a few pounds eventually.

[identity profile] thette.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 06:59 am (UTC)(link)
Naughties! Lovely! Lovely!

I shall kiss your furry cheek if I ever meet you.

[identity profile] amarafox.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 07:11 am (UTC)(link)
*snicker*

I can't remember where I picked up 'Naughties' for the slang fort hsi generation. I love it, though XD

And *blush!*

[identity profile] snowelf.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 07:20 am (UTC)(link)
*laughs* And then he didn't understand why I got pissed off. I hate it when people talk about losing weight as if it was some super-easy thing everyone can do. Some people just can't lose it that fast or easily.
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[personal profile] moniqueleigh 2004-03-14 10:29 am (UTC)(link)
Damn straight! I'm the same way. As I've not been on a scale in *counts* at least 3 years, I have no idea of my current weight. But! The size 20 pants that were almost too small 3 years ago will only stay on me now thanks to elastic waist bands & my large hips. The size 18 jeans I bought recently are very loose, even immediately out of the washer/dryer. I can't quite fit comfortably into the 16's yet, but I'm getting there.

No, it's not easy. Because silly me would love to see the results come faster. (It's especially annoying during the time of the month that I have extra water-weight. :P) But it's better for my health. It's something I can do.

Azz, thanks for posting this. I'm going to link to it & save it in my memories for those days I need reminding of why I'm not going on Atkins with my mother!

[identity profile] iroshi.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 10:56 am (UTC)(link)
People ask me how I lost 30 pounds in the last 2 years (before I got pregnant, I had gone down from 200 to 170) and I freely admit that I just...got up off my butt. I've never had a problem with overeating, for which I'm thankful, and I *admit* to people that I *know* I have a fabulous metabolism, for which I thank my father greatly. As long as I'm not being lazy, and I get up from the computer and do housework, and walk to the bus stop instead of having Chris drive me... If I take the bus to work and the bus home, I end up with a total of 1 mile walking with no effort added to my life - it's a quarter-mile from my apartment to the bus stop, and a quarter-mile from the train station to my office. 1 mile round trip, in quarter-mile segments. One of the apartments we lived in during the last two years was a half-mile from the bus stop, so I got in 2.5 miles every day at that one.

So yes, I'm a big proponent of the eat less-exercise more weight loss plan...but I know better than to say, "If I can do it, YOU can do it!" when in actuality, I've done it just like Azz is saying here -- gradual little changes. Just get off your butt and add a few minutes every day. Park at the back of the parking lot instead of looking for a close spot, for instance. That adds a LOT of mileage to your walking over the week.

[identity profile] snowelf.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 11:32 am (UTC)(link)
*nods* Yes, gradual little changes are easier to stick to as well.

[identity profile] ornjkitty.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 06:30 pm (UTC)(link)
LOL. Complete snivelling idiot who thinks he is the best thing since sliced bread, in other words?

[identity profile] ornjkitty.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 06:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Health is a good thing. Yay, health.

[identity profile] ornjkitty.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 06:41 pm (UTC)(link)
And there is no "one-solution-fits-all" answer. My new sister-in-law lost a lot of weight right before the wedding, and everyone complimented her on the success of her diet. Turns out she never went on a "diet" at all, she developed an allergic reaction to the soft drinks she was drinking, and was only able to drink water for six months.

Years and years spent being nagged at by her ultra-skinny mother about all the fad diets she should try (and all the other b.s. most of us have heard far more times than we would like to about how one simply cannot "let oneself go to seed", etc. etc. blaargh without end), and it turns out she didn't need to "diet" at all. Just one little change that did not require the proverbial Shylockian "pound of flesh" (pardon the pun, but I couldn't think of another analogy that connoted the levels of agony required by most fad diets). Nice thing was, it cleared up her complexion and gave her a lot more energy, to boot. And all it "cost" her was something that was making her sick anyway. [Would that my vices were that simple and easily managed, LOL! But I'm only giving up this chocolate bar when you pry it out of my cold dead fingers!]

[identity profile] ornjkitty.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 06:46 pm (UTC)(link)
Yup. And most of them on the "Jesus diet".
[Yes, such a thing does exist, I saw it in the bookstore yesterday **shudder**]

[identity profile] amarafox.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 06:48 pm (UTC)(link)
I think I actually get a mild allergic reaction to aspartame. I've narrowed it down to either Aspartame, a preservative or spinach. I went to a friend's place for dinner and we had lasagne and afterwards fruit and angel foodcake and dream whip lite. Within an hour my cheeks were all read and I was getting woozy. Lovely. :P I felt better after an antihistamine. I KNOW I can eat regular dream whip without feeling woozy, though.

I get a similar reaction to food colourings and preservatives in alcoholic fru fru drinks. XD

[identity profile] amarafox.livejournal.com 2004-03-14 06:48 pm (UTC)(link)
cheeks were RED. Gah. I. Can't. Spell. Today :P

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