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Azure Jane Lunatic (Azz) 🌺 ([personal profile] azurelunatic) wrote2004-03-30 04:27 pm

Snobbery (from a conversation with [profile] onyxrising)

Just because you can do elegant and complex stuff casually, and hold yourself to high standards does not make you a snob. Snobbery starts when you unreasonably expect others to conform to the high standards that you hold.

Expecting others to conform to reasonable standards, even if they are high, is not snobbery. And there are times and places where the standards, even high ones, should apply.


Examples from the conversation:
Whipping up a chilled curried cantaloupe soup and fresh bread for a quick cold thrown-together lunch is not snobbery, not if you're a culinary arts major and do that sort of stuff casually.
Being upset that someone else throws together peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for a quick cold lunch (rather than making chilled curried cantaloupe soup and fresh bread) is definitely snobbery, especially if they're not a culinary arts major.
Holding a resturant staff to high standards when you're paying for a good lunch is not snobbery.


Examples from my real life:

  • My spelling very well and using decent grammar in my own journal, comments, and communities is not snobbery, especially because it comes naturally to me.

  • My expecting someone to spell correctly and/or use decent grammar in their own journal and mocking them for the lack thereof would be snobbery, even though I would be well within my rights to insist on spelling and grammar in that same piece if it were turned in to me as a class assignment.

  • My expectation of good grammar and usage and good spelling in a published novel is normal, and I have every right to say, "Excuse me?" to the publishing house that does Laurell K. Hamilton's Anita Blake books, and decline to buy the next one.

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[identity profile] rialian.livejournal.com 2004-03-30 03:34 pm (UTC)(link)
===Well said.

[identity profile] gothic-valkyrie.livejournal.com 2004-03-30 03:40 pm (UTC)(link)
What exactly did the publishing house do?
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[personal profile] wibbble 2004-03-30 03:50 pm (UTC)(link)
Publish it, full of errors?
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[identity profile] rialian.livejournal.com 2004-03-30 04:17 pm (UTC)(link)
===I have absolutely no problem with grammar issues...(while I tend to write with my own idiot-cyncracies, I am quite aware I am doing them.).

===Exploring odd uses of grammar online: I tend to use the === to start off my online paragraphs. It happens to be a habit that I picked up when writing to e-mail lists that had people that simply could not quote properly to save their lives, and it helps me delineate my own thoughts from others. My horrid use of ellipses is my way of putting the "pause" that happens in "normal" speech. The use of " " around words tends to be a shorthand to say I am using the word, but either not convinced it is the best and most accurate term, or I am using it slightly differently than normal...and thus want to make it apparent I am aware of this and that others SHOULD be aware of this.

===I have no problem with unusual uses of grammar and writing, if it is done with awareness, with reason, and with intelligence.

===(And I do know that I personally should both learn how to type better, and use the mighty power of the spell-checker to catch my typing mistakes.)

[identity profile] sithjawa.livejournal.com 2004-03-30 06:18 pm (UTC)(link)
When I see that, I assume it's the fault of a lawyer somewhere :D

[identity profile] sithjawa.livejournal.com 2004-03-30 06:23 pm (UTC)(link)
Aye.

Here's my opinion on a couple borderline cases:

Sitting down next to your pb&j-eating friend and saying "mmm, curried cantaloupe" in a pointed tone: Snobbery.
Pointing out to someone who says " U R WRONG U SUK" that their lack of spelling and breaches of netiquette are probably causing them to be taken less seriously: Not snobbery.
Doing so repeatedly if they say they don't care: Snobbery.
Mocking someone for reading Anita Blake: Snobbery.

I had something to say, but I forgot.