This post is excellent. Rejection therapy is a useful thing and helps people past the neuroses that can accompany rejection.

I'm also trying to figure or how to put down on words the idea of "men get trained to believe that there are only the hypercompetent, who never get rejected at all, and the losers, who will always be rejected if there's a competent alternative. This framing sucks and leads to all sorts of bad things, like Nice Guyism and physical assault." without making it seem like, "yeah, women get assaulted and such, but what about the menz?" If I figure it out, maybe I'll post on it.