Azure Jane Lunatic (Azz) 🌺 (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
azurelunatic) wrote2002-12-06 12:15 pm
azurelunatic) wrote2002-12-06 12:15 pm
From comment: Aggression, Anger = Spine
Have been learning, Ari-style, to use my pissy moods to drag up things that are problems, and get all my ranting about them done then, in a forum where the words I say cannot harm, and then address the problems when I'm calm enough to make myself understood and listened to and not hurtful without cause.
I have been lucky enough to get positive reinforcement for aggression in the form of standing up for self (going a little farther than that, even) in the form of a cheerleading squad (Darkside, yay) saying "It's about time you stood up for yourself." Not particularly praising it as something extraordinary, but as something that should become ordinary.
It puts things in interesting perspective when telling the tale of what was, at the time, a youthful bravery, hearing Darkside say, "You really were spineless then."
I have been lucky enough to get positive reinforcement for aggression in the form of standing up for self (going a little farther than that, even) in the form of a cheerleading squad (Darkside, yay) saying "It's about time you stood up for yourself." Not particularly praising it as something extraordinary, but as something that should become ordinary.
It puts things in interesting perspective when telling the tale of what was, at the time, a youthful bravery, hearing Darkside say, "You really were spineless then."