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azurelunatic) wrote2003-01-09 02:45 pm
azurelunatic) wrote2003-01-09 02:45 pm
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- that song on repeat from the 8 Mile soundtrack from votania's computer
Oy.
So far as we can figure out, quite a bit of Nephew's acting up in school is due to him wanting to make it more fun. So he creates some chaos, gets in trouble, and then has been lying about it when he gets home. Fortunately, today we learned what's been going on, and are trying to work on stuff.
Explained why lying was bad, using the example of how I'd told him the truth about his vaccinations, that it would hurt, but he had to do it, and it did hurt. But what if I'd told him that it wouldn't hurt at all, that it would just tickle? Then, every time after that I would say that something wouldn't hurt, he'd think I was lying. I think that got through. Told him that now we would have to check with his teacher to see if he was in fact telling the truth about how school had gone.
Also let him know that if he had outright told us that he hadn't made his day at school, and told us what had happened, we would have talked with him and worked with him to fix it, and he would have gotten in trouble, yes, and grounded from video games -- for that day. Now, he's grounded from video games for a month.
Over all, the family conference went off more as "we're worried and want to help you be a good boy and your actions have consequences" than "You are in so much trouble, mister." And, as always, we closed up by telling him that we loved him very much and we wanted him to be the best boy, and the best grownup, he could be. And I told him about how I'd gotten in trouble for being mean one time.
Explained why lying was bad, using the example of how I'd told him the truth about his vaccinations, that it would hurt, but he had to do it, and it did hurt. But what if I'd told him that it wouldn't hurt at all, that it would just tickle? Then, every time after that I would say that something wouldn't hurt, he'd think I was lying. I think that got through. Told him that now we would have to check with his teacher to see if he was in fact telling the truth about how school had gone.
Also let him know that if he had outright told us that he hadn't made his day at school, and told us what had happened, we would have talked with him and worked with him to fix it, and he would have gotten in trouble, yes, and grounded from video games -- for that day. Now, he's grounded from video games for a month.
Over all, the family conference went off more as "we're worried and want to help you be a good boy and your actions have consequences" than "You are in so much trouble, mister." And, as always, we closed up by telling him that we loved him very much and we wanted him to be the best boy, and the best grownup, he could be. And I told him about how I'd gotten in trouble for being mean one time.
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