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azurelunatic) wrote2003-01-19 01:55 am
azurelunatic) wrote2003-01-19 01:55 am
Hermiting
I've dealt with several varieties of hermiting.
Mine is simple: I hole up quietly and contact only the people I most desperately need to see, and not the people that I have any suspicion will reject me for any reason at all. If I'm hermited and you want to see me, don't wait for me to see you, for when I'm hermited, I usually don't trust that you will want to see me, and prefer to avoid rejection by not doing anything to seek you out. If I don't want to see you right then, I'll likely not come out if you come over, or not post so much as an acknowledgement to a comment you leave in my journal.
I've seen Darkside in frustrated, fuming, steaming programmingtrance enough times to know it for what it is, a variety of hermiting, and to know that if I just sit there quietly by him, he'll eventually explode out with whatever's on his mind, and then calm down and cheer up. I know him.
It confuses me, though, when hermiting is switched off and on, lightningfast, especially where the hermit needs advice, especially advice from me, but then after getting the advice, needs or wants no more contact, yet needs the advice to be within hollering range. This confuses me greatly. Now that I know that it is this that is confusing me, though, I can hack at understanding it.
How do two different OS's look so similar on the surface?
Mine is simple: I hole up quietly and contact only the people I most desperately need to see, and not the people that I have any suspicion will reject me for any reason at all. If I'm hermited and you want to see me, don't wait for me to see you, for when I'm hermited, I usually don't trust that you will want to see me, and prefer to avoid rejection by not doing anything to seek you out. If I don't want to see you right then, I'll likely not come out if you come over, or not post so much as an acknowledgement to a comment you leave in my journal.
I've seen Darkside in frustrated, fuming, steaming programmingtrance enough times to know it for what it is, a variety of hermiting, and to know that if I just sit there quietly by him, he'll eventually explode out with whatever's on his mind, and then calm down and cheer up. I know him.
It confuses me, though, when hermiting is switched off and on, lightningfast, especially where the hermit needs advice, especially advice from me, but then after getting the advice, needs or wants no more contact, yet needs the advice to be within hollering range. This confuses me greatly. Now that I know that it is this that is confusing me, though, I can hack at understanding it.
How do two different OS's look so similar on the surface?
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GUI's, silly. ^_^
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