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azurelunatic) wrote2003-01-23 10:09 am
azurelunatic) wrote2003-01-23 10:09 am
On the attractiveness of female geeks
When a geek guy is looking for a female companion of some sort, who the hell knows what is really going through his head? I sure don't, not being male. I am making some interesting educated guesses, though, and I'm guessing that one of the reasons that geek guys avoid most of your standard-issue females is because they don't relate well to each other.
There are some geek guys who actually do value content over packaging. Since the US fashion market is all about packaging, and the popular mainstream chicks are all about fashion, and they are the ones who are sought-after in high school because they are the coolest/prettiest, not only do the stereotypical less-socialized geek guys have less of a chance compared to the guys who focus on socializing (if not socialization in the psychological sense!), they may not really want what's out there, if that's the ideal version of feminine. [If that's the final release, I'll take the beta!!]
I began hanging with the geek guys when I was in high school, and the less-socialized of them tripped out. When I finally got one of them (the one who hadn't visibly developed the layer of social self-protectiveness that most of us get) to talk to me, he tripped out for a while on how excellently cool it was that I was actually talking to them: I'm was a girl! And I liked games! And anime!
I pointed out that I watched anime because the rest of them were watching it and because I was there (though I did like New Angel a lot), and that I didn't actually play the games, I just hung around while the games were being played because I was hanging around with the guys.
Yeah, my friend [River, in point of fact] pointed out: but I was still hanging around with them, wasn't I? I would hang around with them, and I wouldn't make them feel lousy for liking games and anime, and I wouldn't change the topic to things they found dull, and I would actually talk to them...
From this, I gather that geek guys want to actually talk and spend quality time with women, have someone they can relate to on a personal level, rather than having a 'trophy' girlfriend who won't talk about computers or games or anime or any of the interesting things.
There are some geek guys who actually do value content over packaging. Since the US fashion market is all about packaging, and the popular mainstream chicks are all about fashion, and they are the ones who are sought-after in high school because they are the coolest/prettiest, not only do the stereotypical less-socialized geek guys have less of a chance compared to the guys who focus on socializing (if not socialization in the psychological sense!), they may not really want what's out there, if that's the ideal version of feminine. [If that's the final release, I'll take the beta!!]
I began hanging with the geek guys when I was in high school, and the less-socialized of them tripped out. When I finally got one of them (the one who hadn't visibly developed the layer of social self-protectiveness that most of us get) to talk to me, he tripped out for a while on how excellently cool it was that I was actually talking to them: I'm was a girl! And I liked games! And anime!
I pointed out that I watched anime because the rest of them were watching it and because I was there (though I did like New Angel a lot), and that I didn't actually play the games, I just hung around while the games were being played because I was hanging around with the guys.
Yeah, my friend [River, in point of fact] pointed out: but I was still hanging around with them, wasn't I? I would hang around with them, and I wouldn't make them feel lousy for liking games and anime, and I wouldn't change the topic to things they found dull, and I would actually talk to them...
From this, I gather that geek guys want to actually talk and spend quality time with women, have someone they can relate to on a personal level, rather than having a 'trophy' girlfriend who won't talk about computers or games or anime or any of the interesting things.
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The trouble is, when you're a geek girl and you're going after a guy, you want to make friends with him first so you'll know if he's a keeper or not, and then when you want to make a move on him, he's already your friend, so it gets weird....
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As for the relating-to-the-friend thing... well, you may consider looking for clues as to his interest first. Subtle clues.
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<tongue cheek="true">Do you pronounce the 'b' in that? </tongue>
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I would like a husband who is Jewish.
I want to be with someone with whom I can share my hobbies, and my books, and my likings, and my life.
This means, to get my ideal mate, I would have to find a gamer/TV/anime/SF/fantasy geek who is also Jewish. Oh, and who I am physically attracted to, and who is physically attracted to me.
Not an easy fit, so I make do with what 've got, which is a man who fits almost all of the above, and resepects my beliefs and foibles.
On a completely different tack, and much closer to what you were actually talking about, I am wise enough to smile and nod when my boyfriend goes into "computer-speak." And he is wise enough to eventually either explain what he's talking about in simple language, or realize that I don't care. But either way, he appreciates that I do listen.
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Weird things are happening in my head at the moment... weird...