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azurelunatic) wrote2003-04-11 07:15 pm
azurelunatic) wrote2003-04-11 07:15 pm
Kids, learning, patience, and envy.
The skill with Little Fayoumis, learning, and having him focus, isn't something that just happened overnight.
I had six intense weeks of experience keeping an ADHD 16-year-old on-task and focused. I was fifteen.
I had four gruelling years of keeping an ADHD teenager, unmedicated, on-task, focused, and out of trouble from fifteen to nineteen.
I had two years of reading with slow-to-learn kids.
I have excellent memories of my own mental state at younger than most adults have clear memories of.
I have two years of 24-7 experience with Little Fayoumis as of next Wednesday.
He knows that when I want him to do something that is within his capability to do, I will work and work until he has done it. I am patient like a rock when I'm in teaching-mode, and I don't give up. I don't get loudly mad when I'm teaching him, very often. I will say, "I am getting mad about this" every now and then when in teaching-mode, or "I am getting frustrated", but I say it in a calm, level voice for the most part, or tiredly, and save the snap of grouch in the voice for punishment. He knows that when he breaks a rule, he will get in trouble for it. He knows that when he does something socially unacceptable, he will get told about it. He knows that when he does things right, I notice them. Sometimes he gets rewarded for them.
It's interesting. And it didn't happen overnight. At first, he was a complete stinker for me, and great for Mommy. But as time passed, and he realized that Mommy and I were backing each other up, and we both loved him, he settled down.
I had six intense weeks of experience keeping an ADHD 16-year-old on-task and focused. I was fifteen.
I had four gruelling years of keeping an ADHD teenager, unmedicated, on-task, focused, and out of trouble from fifteen to nineteen.
I had two years of reading with slow-to-learn kids.
I have excellent memories of my own mental state at younger than most adults have clear memories of.
I have two years of 24-7 experience with Little Fayoumis as of next Wednesday.
He knows that when I want him to do something that is within his capability to do, I will work and work until he has done it. I am patient like a rock when I'm in teaching-mode, and I don't give up. I don't get loudly mad when I'm teaching him, very often. I will say, "I am getting mad about this" every now and then when in teaching-mode, or "I am getting frustrated", but I say it in a calm, level voice for the most part, or tiredly, and save the snap of grouch in the voice for punishment. He knows that when he breaks a rule, he will get in trouble for it. He knows that when he does something socially unacceptable, he will get told about it. He knows that when he does things right, I notice them. Sometimes he gets rewarded for them.
It's interesting. And it didn't happen overnight. At first, he was a complete stinker for me, and great for Mommy. But as time passed, and he realized that Mommy and I were backing each other up, and we both loved him, he settled down.
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We have different styles, and I envy the way they can goof off together and be more thoroughly silly than I ever can.