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azurelunatic) wrote2003-05-06 12:20 pm
azurelunatic) wrote2003-05-06 12:20 pm
Interminable wait: Depression rant
Doctor stopped by about 7:45 to tell me that the procedure was over and she was just fine.
I got called in to the recovery ward about an hour later, after an interminable hour of listening to a man vent to an older woman (not his mom, evidently, but someone who seemed to be standing in for the Older Female Support Group position) about his handicapped (thanks to an accident), depressed and nonfunctional wife.
I say this to everyone: if you have something wrong with you, and there's something you can do about it, fergoshsakes do it. Those who love you will give you all the love and support they can. Those who don't love you... probably won't. Those who love you don't want you to go too fast and push too hard and hurt yourself worse, but they do want you better.
This woman was evidently refusing medical treatment because she didn't want to do it, not because she thought it wasn't the right treatment. She wasn't getting a second opinion. She's having her husband wrangle with her lawyers (which he's getting fed up of doing) and doing absolutely jack squat to get herself better and functional again. He's on the verge of divorce because she's refusing to get better. Taking a long time to heal, he could see that. She's not putting any effort into it. She's drinking coffee continuously and chainsmoking, and then complains of insomnia. Um, duh, woman.
I don't think there's anyone on my friends list who has a known condition and does absolutely nothing to help it, and does things that would make it worse. I don't think anyone doing that would stay on my friends list for long. Even people who don't have physical things wrong with them, people with depression and so forth -- I don't think I have anyone on my friends list who is continually just sitting back and letting the depression overwhelm them to the point where they are nonfunctional. It has been years, for this woman.
Everyone has good days and bad days, fighting with their various problems. Everyone. This woman has given up fighting. That's something I don't want to see in any of my friends.
I got called in to the recovery ward about an hour later, after an interminable hour of listening to a man vent to an older woman (not his mom, evidently, but someone who seemed to be standing in for the Older Female Support Group position) about his handicapped (thanks to an accident), depressed and nonfunctional wife.
I say this to everyone: if you have something wrong with you, and there's something you can do about it, fergoshsakes do it. Those who love you will give you all the love and support they can. Those who don't love you... probably won't. Those who love you don't want you to go too fast and push too hard and hurt yourself worse, but they do want you better.
This woman was evidently refusing medical treatment because she didn't want to do it, not because she thought it wasn't the right treatment. She wasn't getting a second opinion. She's having her husband wrangle with her lawyers (which he's getting fed up of doing) and doing absolutely jack squat to get herself better and functional again. He's on the verge of divorce because she's refusing to get better. Taking a long time to heal, he could see that. She's not putting any effort into it. She's drinking coffee continuously and chainsmoking, and then complains of insomnia. Um, duh, woman.
I don't think there's anyone on my friends list who has a known condition and does absolutely nothing to help it, and does things that would make it worse. I don't think anyone doing that would stay on my friends list for long. Even people who don't have physical things wrong with them, people with depression and so forth -- I don't think I have anyone on my friends list who is continually just sitting back and letting the depression overwhelm them to the point where they are nonfunctional. It has been years, for this woman.
Everyone has good days and bad days, fighting with their various problems. Everyone. This woman has given up fighting. That's something I don't want to see in any of my friends.