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[azurelunatic]

An incident happened today, where Angelica was wanting to play with something of the Little Fayoumis's, and he was getting very upset about it. Told him that saying "That's my toy!" was not helpful, since she already knew that it was his toy. He could say, "Yes, you may play with that toy," or "No, you may not play with that toy." She asked about that toy, and relieved to have the option, he said no. And then he kept saying no about some of the other toys she was asking about. She didn't look very pleased about it. "Him said no!" she told me indignantly. Told her that since the toy belonged to the Little Fayoumis, that he had the right to say no.

Afterwards, I thought about it, and decided that it would be a good idea to separate his toys into two categories: toys that everyone could play with, and toys that other people had to ask about first.

Then, thought about it again. Three categories: Everyone, Ask First, and Don't Touch. Don't Touch would never be up for playing with by other kids. Ask First: self-explanatory. And everyone could play with the rest of the toys.

For the sake of fairness, while other kids were there, he would only be able to play with the toys that he was willing to allow them to play with too, restricting him to playing with the Everyone toys or the Ask First toys he'd said yes about.

I think it could work. It just requires some sorting...

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[musyc]

Not knowing how the LF normally stashes his toys....

Some kind of stacked plastic box thingie? Labels on the front regarding the three categories?

[azurelunatic]

They're in a huge plastic container in the living room. Recently I decreed that all the cars be put in one bucket so the practice of "I dig through all my toys and throw them all over the bedroom floor (they were in the bedroom at this point) until I find the one I want" would stop.

The container is getting very beat-up and is nearing the end of its useful life, though.