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azurelunatic) wrote2003-08-04 07:09 pm
azurelunatic) wrote2003-08-04 07:09 pm
Yaaagh. (Kid ranting)
Today was not a good day for him -- he was told to put away his laundry, and then would put one piece away, then start playing. After he finally, five hours later, got it all put away, he was sat down with a workbook. Same deal. One letter, then playing.
I finally had to stand over him and get him to do it, and point out when he started to play, and eventually did send him to the corner when he got an "uncontrollable itch". The instant he stopped crying, I sent him back to work on that. He snifflingly told me that it hurt his feelings when I yelled. (Around here, a snappish tone that's only slightly louder than usual counts as a major yell.) I told him that it hurt my feelings just as much when he didn't do what I told him to do.
That one stopped his pity-party right in its tracks.
Somewhat later, he was telling Sim to stop bothering him, he was working. Told him that he was not allowed to talk to Sim, and Sim was not allowed to bother him, but most especially, he was not allowed to talk to Sim even if Sim was bothering him, and to get back to work.
He distinguishes between "doing it slow" (which is doing the actual work slow enough to be careful with it) and "playing instead of working". If you tell him to not do it slow, he will say that he has to do it slow, and he means that he has to go slow enough to be careful, and not rush and do a slapdash job of it. If you tell him to work and not play, he will get guilty and get back to work instead of getting indignant over the implied threat to the quality of his work.
It's really not a fair choice to tell him, "Are you going to argue with me and go to the corner, or are you going to work?" But, until he gets in the habit of actually doing stuff, it's the only choice I can give him when he's messing around when he's supposed to be working.
We're having him do workbooks and stuff over the break so he hasn't lost all that stuff when it comes time for school next Monday. I'm guessing that half the rest of the class will have either lost their writing or not have had it in the first place. He's almost reading... well, really short words and his own name, but still reading.
I finally had to stand over him and get him to do it, and point out when he started to play, and eventually did send him to the corner when he got an "uncontrollable itch". The instant he stopped crying, I sent him back to work on that. He snifflingly told me that it hurt his feelings when I yelled. (Around here, a snappish tone that's only slightly louder than usual counts as a major yell.) I told him that it hurt my feelings just as much when he didn't do what I told him to do.
That one stopped his pity-party right in its tracks.
Somewhat later, he was telling Sim to stop bothering him, he was working. Told him that he was not allowed to talk to Sim, and Sim was not allowed to bother him, but most especially, he was not allowed to talk to Sim even if Sim was bothering him, and to get back to work.
He distinguishes between "doing it slow" (which is doing the actual work slow enough to be careful with it) and "playing instead of working". If you tell him to not do it slow, he will say that he has to do it slow, and he means that he has to go slow enough to be careful, and not rush and do a slapdash job of it. If you tell him to work and not play, he will get guilty and get back to work instead of getting indignant over the implied threat to the quality of his work.
It's really not a fair choice to tell him, "Are you going to argue with me and go to the corner, or are you going to work?" But, until he gets in the habit of actually doing stuff, it's the only choice I can give him when he's messing around when he's supposed to be working.
We're having him do workbooks and stuff over the break so he hasn't lost all that stuff when it comes time for school next Monday. I'm guessing that half the rest of the class will have either lost their writing or not have had it in the first place. He's almost reading... well, really short words and his own name, but still reading.