The hardest thing...

[azurelunatic]

Apropos of nothing on LJ...

The hardest thing for me is not when someone is complaining frequently about others telling them that they suck. There, you can find out sides of a story, resolve a problem, give constructive, creative feedback on why there is a lack of sucking and ways to make the self more flameproof...

But when someone goes off on the "I totally suck and I am a worthless piece of shit" tangent, I get all flamy and fumy to myself, because on the one hand I think they don't, on the other hand I think they should get over their inferiority complex and finally admit to themselves that they don't suck and face up to that, on the third hand I want them to admit that they don't suck so that they won't start sucking, and on the fourth hand I know that I hate it so much because I feel the same way sometimes and just have the decency to not show it in public.

Which sucks.

Comments

[wibbble]

That's a lot of hands, and a lot of sucking.

I tried to be really dirty-minded about that without it sounding too crass or possibly insulting, but nothing's springing to mind. Anyone got any suggestions?

[conscience.livejournal.com]

I think you have done pretty well, *high 5*

[azurelunatic]

A dirty mind is a terrible thing to waste. Y'know, the style of the comment made me think it was godai at first.

[conscience.livejournal.com]

yup, yup, yup, yup, yup, yup, *nod*

[sithjawa.livejournal.com]

I have noticed that usually when I find myself thinking "I totally suck and am a worthless piece of shit", it's usually because I don't want to face the idea of having done something embarrassing. It's like, if I suck, I can't help having been a dumbass, right? So I beat myself up less over it.

I got annoyed with this, and started drowning out thinking what a dumbass I was with swearing instead.

[azurelunatic]

When I get into those loops, that's when Darkside comes, whacks me over the head gently with a textbook to make me stop sobbing, "I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry" and make me pay attention, and asks, "Sorry for what?" and I tell him about the dumbassery, and he often interrupts, "So, you're sorry for being human?"

That usually makes me giggle, and occasionally I will yell, "YES!" which does make me giggle.

I am lucky, I think. I have a Darkside.