Happy Mother's Day!

[azurelunatic]

Lots of mothers on LJ, so I'm not sure if I even want to attempt to list 'em all. But special Mother's Day greetings to Mama (if you're reading this), Darkside's mom (even less likely, but ditto), Figment's mom (who probably WON'T read this, plzkthxbi), nilo, iroshi, amberfox, pharminatrix, shadesong, ariedana, bekithewitch, chlaal, cissa, easalle, grifyn, janezero, melcocha (Pontiff counts!), mnfiddledragon, nalidoll, smmc, sorcha007, stormraven23, thette (whenever your body gets around to it), trystan_laryssa (so he's not yours, but he's your bondmate's, so...), vodounsi (Again, the little squirrel counts!), olliesmama, and teenagewitch. Um. And someone who likely knows who she is, but may not care to be so greeted in public; may you meet strong and healthy in Timeheart, and a pox on those insensitive clods who performed religious rites without your permission and pressed their incompatible mourning customs upon you in your time of extremity.

And there are likely some who I missed -- sorry about that! (After my memory was exhausted, I copied and pasted from my userinfo, and only kept the people I knew were mothers, or near-mothers, or mothers-to-be.)

We'll have coffee at work (yay coffee!) and muffins. Yay muffins!

chorus_of_chaos, when was that Non-Parenthood Celebration day you were talking about getting together? Wasn't it back in February or March? The informed decision to not have children when it would be wrong to do so is as worthy of celebration as the raising of healthy and happy children.

Comments

[nilo.livejournal.com]

Thank you!!!

[azurelunatic]

You're welcome.

[elance.livejournal.com]

I think that a Non-Parenthood Celebration Day is a wonderful idea. Mother's Day has always been a bit of a difficult one for me, as I'll never celebrate it in any way other than honouring my own mother.

[azurelunatic]

I think that mentioning it at each parenthood celebration day as well as on the non-parenthood celebration day itself is probably the way to get the meme rolling.

[bekijane.livejournal.com]

Oooh I get to celebrate twice *grin* Thank you :-)

(Over here we had Mothering Sunday on the 6th March)

[azurelunatic]

Hooray international celebrations!

[amberfox.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hun. =) Now if only the smaller one will let me get my sleep sorted out I'll be all kinds of good.

[azurelunatic]

Heh. Yay, kids?

[amberfox.livejournal.com]

Yay meds, more like. I'm manic right now, so crying babies are a Bad Thing. (I don't go back to sleep very well if I'm woken up, and the sound goes straight through my skull.)

[azurelunatic]

Very yay, meds.

I've got a few sleep issues myself, and from everything you say, plus what I've experienced myself, I wouldn't deal well with babies either.

[thette.livejournal.com]

Thank you!

[azurelunatic]

You're welcome.

I hope everything on that front is going well.

[grifyn.livejournal.com]

Thanks! The boys are taking me out to brunch... assuming the larger of the two ever wakes up. It may be more like Mother's Day Dinner. ;-)

[azurelunatic]

Ah, the Spouseus Dormiens in its natural habitat, bed...

[cissa.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the Mother's day wishes!

[azurelunatic]

You're welcome.

[smmc.livejournal.com]

Thank you. :)

And I think a Non-parenthood celebration is a wonderful idea too. Even though the militant childfree peeps would probably turn it into a nightmare. =)

[azurelunatic]

As if the Wrong Kind of childfree people don't already make the assorted parents' days bad enough for those who are within range of the wankage?

[chorus-of-chaos.livejournal.com]

militant anything, whether is pro having kids or pro childfree is a nightmare...My take is I just wish people would put THOUGHT into it, not just what THEY want, but what would be best for the to be or not to be child...that is really where parenting starts, is evaluating yourself before you get pregnant or before you keep a baby you aren't ready or capable of dealing with. If someone has the means and is responsible enough to have 12 kids and that's what they want, yay for you! Crank them out, just take good care of them and parent them so they are semi decent little people and aren't neglected or abused.

[smmc.livejournal.com]

I've actually had to make that decision: wether or not I was ready and fit to bring a child into this world. 10 years ago. I knew then that it wasn't the right time and made the decision that I knew was best. But I also wonder sometimes -- what would that child have been like and could we (hubby and I) have managed to provide and do well for it afterall. Sometimes it isn't your current situation that dictates what you should do, but sometimes how ready you are to put the effort forth into making something work. *shrug*

I dunno.

And yes, militant anything is bad. Fanatical parents, boob nazi's, and asswipe childfree peeps. They all try to shove views down your throat and are usually rather psychotic about it. I guess I just mentioned the childfree scary peeps (they aren't all bad, I know) because those are the ones I have the most experience with to date. Well, them and the boob nazi's. But the boob nazi's don't raise a stink about Mothers/Fathers day. ;)

I feel for Az if she has any she has to deal with on an RL basis.

[azurelunatic]

I mostly have to deal with Other People's Bad Parenting Skills on the bus. I tend to stay clear of people who are obnoxious about things online. I've particpated in raising a kid, I've decided that unless someone changes my mind, I likely will avoid having kids of my own, and all is good.

And you're right, the best situation in the world is still a crappy place to bring a child into if the parent(s) are not willing to put any effort into raising the kid(s).

[chorus-of-chaos.livejournal.com]

Yeah, part of my gig is not just "are you financially capable" but are you also emotionally, mentally and responsible enough? There are way to many children out there who are neglected and/or abused, and so much of it stems from people just going oh yeah babies! and not thinking about everything that goes with childrearing...or worse, just not giving a shit about what goes with childrearing.

I helped a friend who was in a bad situation (I didn't realize HOW bad at the time) go and get an abortion, and even in that capacity I had second thoughts on that one until I found out the whole story...but I still did it in respect for her right to choose. (Initial story, she was pregnant by her black boyfriend, her family very ultra conservative christian, she was flat broke, no car, no job, nothing....boyfriend basically same stretch...later I found out her FATHER had raped her and gotten her pregnant.)

Abortion isn't a light choice either, that's for certain. I think quality of life, as opposed to quantity of life, needs to factor in though, and that doesn't get thought of enough.

Regardless of what you do, it is a very big decision that should be thought about strongly rather than just going with the flow of whatever the current regime is screaming.

[chorus-of-chaos.livejournal.com]

That was February 28, check out the iconage for more detailing :) Thanks for remembering it, even though a bit belated!