Writer's Block: Ohhh, baby

[azurelunatic]

If your best friend asked you OR your partner to help you conceive a child, would you consider it? How do you think it would affect your friendship and your relationship? Submitted By moho2987 View 958 Answers

Since I first saw this, I've been trying to imagine a scenario where a theoretical* best friend would come up to me and a theoretical male partner and say, "Hey, I hear you've been trying to get her knocked up; anything I can do to help you?"

That could indeed cause some weirdness.


*I mean, I have a best friend already, but attempting to imagine him saying this is to laugh hysterically.

Comments

[wibbble]

I'm not sure that question even makes sense, as phrased. Maybe if they said 'if your best friend asked you or your partner to help them or their partner conceive a child, would you consider it?' it would work better.

The question posted just sounds really creepy.

[azurelunatic]

It doesn't make sense. :D

That's the problem with accepting suggestions from the audience. Every now and then, nonsense is going to slip through.

[norabombay.livejournal.com]

I suppose I'd be willing to donate an egg. But I don't think I'd make a good surrogate.
And it would really depend on which best friend.

[azurelunatic]

I think I'd be more inclined to help out a friend who wanted a kid than I would be to like the scenario as described here, the friend wanting to help me with a kid.

Watch out, feeling tangenty

[amiga500.livejournal.com]

I'd consider surrogacy for someone I loved, and that's despite hating being pregnant. A little part of me would like to give birth again, and do it right this time. I'm not so sure about egg donation, as the hormones scare me. In a surrogate situation, I'd want to keep things pretty standard, except maybe for the actual insemination. My egg and womb, your choice of sperm. I do donate milk, on an ongoing basis, and that's much, much easier, but it's a lot more gratifying than I would have expected. Two little boys get noms from me, and I love it.

I do have a friend who'd like a kid but who's unlikely to get knocked up without a lot of work (I think this is maybe the best and worst thing about gay sex; no babies, ever). Two other male friends have been willing to at least consider acting as donors for her, so long as they were both clear on the terms of the agreement, and knew each other well enough to think she'd be a good mother. I was surprised how easily they'd consider the idea.

About my husband being a sperm donor? Not so sure. I'd definitely want any potential mother to know his family background well enough to know what she was getting into, and I'd want to know that it wouldn't fuck with his head too much, which would probably rule it out entirely.

Probably wouldn't accept help this way, since I was never rabid about having kids. I'd definitely take donor milk if needed, though.

Re: Watch out, feeling tangenty

[azurelunatic]

Makes sense.

I am highly uncertain about the whole pregnancy thing, particularly given that if you're already crazy, it will probably make you crazier.

I have a somewhat advanced lack of desire to become crazier.

Re: Watch out, feeling tangenty

[iroshi.livejournal.com]

Actually, I always felt a lot LESS crazy when I was pregnant. Until that last pregnancy where my joints just up and decided to get all wiggly, but that was the body failing, not the brain. The brain is still willing, but the body don't like it no more.

Seriously, that's why I thought my brainpan might work better on birth control pills, because they mildly simulate pregnancy to convince your body not to loose any more eggs. However, the pills made me more crazy. Pregnancy, on the other hand, always stabilized my mood *greatly*.

YMMV, of course, since we're different kinds of crazy. I started to say "vastly different", but that's really not quite so true. I think it's a lot the same kind of crazy, just differently structured.

[selenite.livejournal.com]

Well . . . we actually had something along those lines going on . . . but it's a poly family so we'd established a very strong relationship before getting to that point so "effect on relationship" had been worked out in advance. Which I'd recommend to anyone considering any one of the possible interpretations of that question IRL.

[iroshi.livejournal.com]

Hrm. Well, I considered being a surrogate for a male couple once, and if I'd known they were looking even 5 years earlier, I would've done it, but by that time I understood that my body just wasn't physically capable of dealing with any more damned children. :)

As for somebody wanting my hubby to be their baby's daddy? Well, I can understand that he is a damned fine specimen. *giggle* I'm poly; I wouldn't care if they did it the natural way. But I think he'd worry way too much about how they were raising "his" kid to go through with it.

[raranax.livejournal.com]

I need some help getting my girl pregnant. I kidnaped a fertile guy, could I use your turkey baster for a few hours?

[azurelunatic]

You mean your mom's turkey baster?