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Azure Jane Lunatic (Azz) 🌺 ([personal profile] azurelunatic) wrote2014-12-04 03:10 am

Like hieroglyphics, let me be specific:

BPAL of the morning: Blueberry Picking. There was a whiff of blueberry while wet, but the rest I couldn't quite identify. Not particularly high throw or long-lasting.

Got to work earlier than usual, to the surprise of everyone, including me. There was a lull in the rain when I set out. It gusted at me on the way to the coffee shop on the corner. It let up and was a bit sunny when I got out of the car. It spat rain in my face from several directions, little sharp cold droplets, not so much needles as tiny, cold stones. I used my coffee cup to shield my headset.

This was rain to confuse smart windshield wipers (apparently they make those nowadays, lb says; his new car has them, and they're a little off the speed he'd choose, but close) and mine are not smart. It flickered between gusts with droplets that already seemed to be flying flat and horizontal when they pancaked against the window, so fast I couldn't tell the edge of one from the next except as they rippled and then flew off in advance of the wipers, to just the hazing of drizzle, more of a fog, kicked up by the tires of the other cars.

Things feel slightly different at work, and in a good way. People are back from their Thanksgiving trips, and Sparkles is always high-energy, even when she's quiet. I feel like I'm getting more done.

There were some Twitter-related shenanigans -- well, actually, they were email-related shenanigans. Polka-Dot Researcher wanted the keys to the Twitter account. I wasn't sure whether I'd changed it or not; I tried the password on the post-it. That password, in my erstwhile Overlady's distinctive writing, failed to open the account. Undaunted, I tried again. Same result. (Lunacy is...) (technically it was to make sure that I hadn't mistyped.) So then I tried the account recovery system. Ayup, it's bouncing. Here are the three email addresses to which the recovery link could be sent:


Yes: Overlady, ajlunatic, and cheesehead, all at vhammer. Cheesehead Researcher was a former member of the team who was sorry to abandon us, but like the crystal singers who must return to Ballybran, she must return to Wisconsin, and another team could make that happen for her.

The penny dropped: wait, A J Lunatic? Oh no. Oh noooooo.

See, while I go by the equivalent of ajlunatic in my wallet name spaces, none of the workplaces which have created email addresses for me have asked what I wanted that email address to be. Virtual Hammer, Enki bless 'em, does not believe in middle names. (Insert digression about the legal difference between having a double-barrelled last name and the first barrel of said last name being, on paper, a middle name. I have a friend who can wax cranky on the subject. When the old folks came over from the old country, they dropped the first barrel. When his folks spawned, they decided perhaps it was time to reclaim the ancestral name. Since it was easier to give the missing first segment as a middle name than it was as a last name, that's where it went, even though culturally it's a family name and not middle. Various hilarity, very little of it actually amusing, has ensued. Virtual Hammer then managed to ask after name/email preferences, and promptly ignored it, which was worse than if they'd never asked at all.)

Which is the long way of saying: my email at Virtual Hammer is actually alunatic@, and not ajlunatic@. Despite various people, my erstwhile Overlady included, very commonly typing it in just so, because that's what I use.

aj******@vh*****.c**. D*** it. D*** it all to h***.

So an apologetic email to Cheesehead it was, then. And the password was reset, and all was well. There may be some random confections in the future for Cheesehead, for being a good sport. The email was reset to my actual address, and confirmed. Then the email was reset to the team shared address that most of our external properties are in the name of, and confirmed, and there it shall stay. I distributed the new password via sneakernet, and documented it in the places where it should ought to have been documented to start with when I was handed it first.

All that was secured before lunch. At lunch, I was chatting with Lennon Glasses Guy when it hit me.

My Overlady was assigned the usual first-initial-last-name email address as everyone else. She also has a very distinctive, uncommon in this country, and lovely first name, which she is widely known by. Apparently the way to finagle the email address of choice as an alternative out of the IT circus/monkey stack (are you seeing the red and yellow infographic here? I'm seeing the red and yellow infographic here...) is to request a mailing list in the desired name, with one member: you.

One ajlunatic@ mailing list, coming *right the fuck up*. Email-able by outside parties, if you please!!

Through the questionable miracle of the helldesk software, IT had it to me before the end of the evening, no questions asked.

The guy two cubes down who is short and wears a lot of plaid and has a really wicked sense of humor was back at work, sounding slightly miserable. I gave him the overly hostile tissue box and the nickname of Sneezy. Every time he sees that box of tissues it cheers him up. Later, I got a new box for my cube and, as is now traditional, put a face to it. I'm not sure what emotion it's conveying, but it's definitely an emotion.

Helldesk shenanigans continue apace. Conspired with Mr. Zune briefly. Then lb came to retrieve me for a trip to the milkshake dungeon. We talked about the state of the helldesk as well.

There was a guest speaker. Due to the rain, it was rather more poorly attended than it might otherwise have been. I saw my friend Murraya (she of the overgrown mint and cat pics) sitting near the front to one side and settled down in her row. Purple joined us soon after. He and I were sort of unfamiliar but interested. Murraya was one of the people for whom this speaker had been invited.

This time, the backstage passes were envelopes taped under the chairs, with buttons inside. Since the rest of the row was empty except for Murraya, one of her presumed-teammates, me, and Purple, Purple looked under the other chairs at his end of the row. He found an envelope. Glee! In the general rustling and confusion, he told me quietly that he was giving it to Murraya, because she would clearly appreciate it so much more. And yes indeed. Yes.

The talk was delightful as usual. Mr. Sub-tle picks his guests well. There was the expected audience Q&A at the end, and Murraya got the mic second. With her heart and her eyes brimming over, she told Lynda Carter exactly how much it had meant to her to have someone like her available as a role model while she was growing up, and she owed her career as an engineer to the strength she found within herself thanks to that.

This was clearly the best question by far, but the other questions were decent.

Purple and I walked back together. Elementary school children are little shits. If you're shooting an alligator, make sure it's not a concrete statue at some point in the process. Purple had left his jacket on the chair between us. I headed back to my desk, and he ran back to retrieve his jacket.

Fishie's procrastination has been productive and has resulted in very viable progress on the other three essays that she's not procrastinating from. I remain proud of Fishie.

My second fishgrandbaby is on the way. I will be a double fishnan. (Not from Fishie, from a different, and somewhat older Fish.)

In the end, I only had to discard three of the creepy cookies. That's a fair go, from the plateful. I really liked the frosting, and will have to do it again.

In the department of white-people-gotta-talk-about-their-biases, Purple and I chatted about some stuff. Not like supermegaterrible, but biases and reactions and fears and some of the sorts of things people who are trying to be good and not act on their prejudices kind of don't always talk about. I don't really have anything smart or well-thought-through to say about that, because it was just us pinging thoughts back and forth while I went through and cleared old day-logs for their to-do lists, and he worked on code. Nothing super special except it's letting a little fresh air into the dank places that could use some cleaning, and cleaning generally goes a little easier when it's not just one.

Purple walked me out. It wasn't raining at that point, so we chatted in the parking lot. Apropos of that one story*, there was that time that his monosyllabic extrovert friend started dating, and warned his new girlfriend that he was clingy. She said it was fine. Two days later, it developed that for that level of clingy, no, it wasn't.

* Image: m/f couple lying in a bed facing away from each other, both looking slightly distressed, with text below.
Her Diary:
Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, 'Nothing.' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it. On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior. I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.'
When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep; I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

His Diary:
My code is broken, can't figure out why

(Now, that is a relationship with spectacularly broken communication. It is not an example of the inherent and unbridgeable differences between men and women, it is an example of someone who has really doubled down on the no shop talk in the relationship concept, and someone else who is really super at worst-case scenarios.)

Particularly nice contented moments in a friendship include the "so this is what I was talking about at my end of the table at lunch today (while we were sitting next to each other)" conversation before splitting off to head home. The conversation on my end of the table involved how terribly awkward it would be to pocket dial someone and then have them overhear you talking shit about them. (Apropos of having recently pocket-dialed Purple.) Which resulted in me in fact telling Purple the two worst things I've said about him behind his back. Which were, for the record, that he's sometimes a bit of an asshole but I prefer it to the kind of asshole Figment could sometimes be, and then a brief tour of what I think of as "the Libertarian cycle" -- although it can probably be applied to other ideologies, but Libertarian is particularly prone to it due to Smart Kid Logic -- there are ideas that seem like a great idea until you see how they actually work in the real world. Though I couldn't exactly pin my finger on any specifics, and he does do a bit of ranting about things that he knows don't actually work entirely that way.

I'm getting the idea that I've simultaneously mellowed (my opinions of others, including friends, used to be rather sharper) and also that I seem to have lucked into a really kind of fantastic group of people about whom I don't actually foster a little burning resentment here and there.

It's getting easier and easier for Purple and me to go down the same mental track and wind up at the same station with the same music playing. This time it was The Bloodhound Gang's "Bad Touch", and we arrived simultaneously at the same part of the chorus. We were amused.

When we hugged goodnight, I leaned my left ear against his shoulder. He pulled me in tighter, and my headset beeped informationally at me. "Ack!" I said, or some similar statement. At least there was no one in the headset's memory to ... hug-dial? Is that even a thing?

(Mr. Antisocial Butterfly was quite loyal about the idea that someone might not consider Purple the best $NAME. Purple will always be the best $NAME to him. Purple is a very, very, very good $NAME. I'm just very cautious about the idea of letting a newcomer take the title, what with the existing competition.)

We hugged again, and this time we were both a little more careful and gentle.

The rain started up again on my way home. We need it.
jecook: "Rejoice, for very bad things are about to happen." - Richard from (warlock)

[personal profile] jecook 2014-12-04 02:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Heh. At work, I Ask people who I know have preferred names what they want their email addresses to be at time.

But then, I *built* the email server stack.
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[personal profile] ephemera 2014-12-04 10:34 pm (UTC)(link)
that photo? I am the woman in that photo when my brain weasles are spiining up to full on crazy, unless I very consciously poke holes in their momentum (mixed metaphors - sorry!)

[personal profile] sithjawa 2014-12-05 09:30 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, I'm definitely the guy in that photo, though when I'm that guy it's not because no shop talk, it's because my brain's too deep in code (or song lyrics, or graphic design, or NaNoWriMo, or having just woken up, or whatever) and I've stopped being adequately verbal with people, or adequately capable of putting myself into the headspace of the relationships with the people around me.

My conversational pattern is something like this:

Person: What are you doing?
me: A thing
Person: What sort of thing?
me: ...Thing
Person: ...o...kay. *walks off*

In more smartphone-y times this is sometimes followed almost immediately by me discovering I can type better than talk, and then

me: *tweets to person* my code is broken tell you later speech is wtf

[personal profile] sithjawa 2014-12-06 04:40 pm (UTC)(link)
Were they supposed to be married? I just thought committed relationship.

Woe the "marriage, and other battlefields" meme

[personal profile] sithjawa 2014-12-06 04:43 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh. Yes. I may have forgotten "husband" describes a specific legal relationship.

Of course brainweasels also may not respect the obvious answer that one would know if weasels were not.