Miscellaneous

[azurelunatic]

Feeling not quite as terrible but still under the weather. (poor thermoregulation, poor appetite, some pain)
Not allowed to attempt to pick up strange men at conferences.
Not socially acceptable to inquire about polyamory (see above).
I got into the Lem section at Powell's. Oops.
Still need to unpack car.
Still need to do laundry.
Moderators comparing notes and a strong bunch of them having the same problem with the same person is important.
Slack has pros and cons.
I pointed someone to Crystal Singer at the bookstore.

Comments

[silveradept]

Re: men and poly - eh?

Lem is dangerous, especially if your first exposure is The Futurological Congress.

[azurelunatic]

The AK-47 Guy Incident was caused (directly) by AK-47 Guy being a well-armed, drunk, homophobe with a willingness to shoot other people. Indirectly, it was caused by not knowing enough about the guy, and allowing the happiness from meeting someone who seemed like so much fun to override the red flags raised as we got to know him better later. There was another incident at a different time with a slightly different set of people which also involved meeting a guy doing NaNoWriMo at the same coffee shop in Phoenix. This one utterly lacked any funny story, but did involve roofies (or something), rape (separately), and blackmail. So a "yay we just met somebody and we know literally nothing about them, but they seem awesome!" scenario is not actually to be trusted. (Knowing someone prior, and finally meeting them in person, is an allowable situation.)

Also, when a guy drops subtle hints similar to "I'm married", and "I'm having dinner with my wife later", a question like "Are you possibly polyamorous?" might come off as a particularly unsubtle pass.

Lem is Purple's favorite, so when I happened upon that section of shelf, I decided I would try a few to see how I liked them ... I may have picked up, er, several...

[silveradept]

Ah. Yes, that would dampen enthusiasm about meeting someone completely unknown.

Oh, yes, that might be seen as unsubtle. For some people, it might be just right, but they are probably rare.

The bookstore is lovely. Had I money to purchase with, there may have been buying. Alas, no money, so no buying.

[azurelunatic]

AK-47 Guy is one of those amazing cautionary tales that shouldn't really exist in real life. I remember IRC as being all "... this is weird..." until they looked at his journal and then HOLY FUCK THIS GUY REALLY HAS AN AK-47 HOLY FUCK.

Subtlety has never been a particularly strong point of mine. I tend to miss it by a mile, in either direction.

Alas for no money, and therefore no new books.

[azurelunatic]

It is very, very, very easy to break a Lunatic unintentionally.