Planner problems redux

[azurelunatic]

a joe rogan quote.

For those unaware, he's like rush limbaugh for bros from ages 20 to 60, roughly, and while clearly this quote was picked for being inspirational in a hackneyed Barney Stinson kind of way and was probably presented to the designer out of context of who the guy is, I really can't be having with that kind of quality control in a thing that's meant to be uplifting me. And then about a page or two later there was a cute little victim-blamey thing about attitude.

Look.

Yes, it's true that the emotional load of OMFG THE BIG C is potentially huge and not to be underestimated. And it's hard to avoid tripping over the line between Acknowledging A Problem That We Have As A Society and faceplanting into "well if you just didn't FEEL so bad about it...!!!"

But it keeps happening, and I'm not sure how much of it is me not feeling the way that everyone expects me to, and how much of it that this planner is just kind of shit in its attitude (and some of the fit and finish stuff). I have some big questions about the dietary advice in the beginning too.


I did score an earlier appointment for radiation on the day of the port install, at least in theory, so I hope that goes into the system helpfully. That'll mean that I come in way too early, hopefully recover in time for a bit of lunch, shuffle over to get my radiation, and then maybe Belovedest can get both of us home and taking naps before the traffic gets worst.

Comments

[princessofgeeks]

wishing you all the best with your treatment.

and wishing Joe Rogan consigned to a dark cave far away with no internet.

[vass]

I'm not sure how much of it is me not feeling the way that everyone expects me to, and how much of it that this planner is just kind of shit in its attitude (and some of the fit and finish stuff). I have some big questions about the dietary advice in the beginning too.

..."Dear CA, my boyfriend is great except that he used tanks to put down the Hungarian Revolution of 1956, clips his toenails into beverages I am drinking, and will not allow me to go to bed until he finishes explaining why everything he does is completely fine and it is I who am wrong. It's probably just me, though. And apart from that he's really wonderful. What should I do?"

I do not think it is Just You, Azz, but even if it is... you're not obligated to give this planner a fair trial in front of a jury of its peers with a lawyer provided for it if it cannot afford one before you DTMFA. It's enough for you just not to be feeling it.

[silveradept]

I'm sure there are useful things that this planner is doing or helping with, but it seems to have an increasing amount of clash in the way it expects you to be a specific kind of person that you are not, holding attitudes that you do not have, and that you would be okay with quotes from all sources, so long as they gesture in the direction of "inspirational."

[sithjawa]

I'm not sure how much of it is me not feeling the way that everyone expects me to, and how much of it that this planner is just kind of shit in its attitude (and some of the fit and finish stuff).

The planner is in fact kind of shit in its attitude, and also, I have the impression that “everyone having a way they expect other people to feel” is an overarching societal problem and that… the problem is not with the people not complying with the expectations.