What do I need in a relationship?

[azurelunatic]

I need to be loved, first of all. I've been in too many relationships where the other party cared nothing for me, just what I could give him. (Yes, him. Both my relationships with girls were at least slightly more functional.) Shawn kept me for sex, self-esteem, and social status.

I need someone with a sense of humor and a sense of silliness. Someone I can't play with, can't laugh at bad puns with, can't engage in physical humor with, isn't someone I wish to spend a majority of my life with.

I need tenderness and romanticism. I would occasionally like flowers. I want someone who will hold my hand at any time just for the connection. I would like someone who will remember my birthday without needing to be prompted, when I forget it. I would like someone who will surprise me with romantic gestures, like remembering which shirt of his or hers is my favorite, and making a point of wearing it if we're going out, or spending some quality time together. I want someone who will remember little in-jokes we have and keep referring to them, someone who will rearrange my hair out of my face for me.

I need sex. I am human. Someone who puts me on a pedestal as some sort of untouchable goddess is not what I want. I want someone who will initiate sex some of the time, if I haven't gotten around to realizing that I want that tonight. I want someone who doesn't require constant sex, either, someone who will be willing to put the way I'm feeling above their horniness (and if they're that horny and I'm not, I'm sure we'll be able to work out some form of compromise). I don't want someone who will get jealous of my collection of sex toys. They're fun, yes, but they're toys. They don't snuggle.

Comments

[kalikanzara.livejournal.com]

(flipping through friend's of friend's list, reads, nods, feels a need to comment:)

*nods*

M-hmm. Yeah. Like that.

*nods again*

(feels vaguely inadequate for not adding much content, but uplifted after having read the post, and somewhat vaguely more optimistic about the world)

[azurelunatic]

Thanks for reading and commenting. :)

My inspiration for this post came from the discussion here... I seem to have entered a sappy phase.

[jdllama.livejournal.com]

You see, this is why I wish I lived in Arizona ;)

*still looking through the list...* Yep, I qualify on all counts :)

Seriously, it's hard enough to find women around here that want those kinds of things, let alone a guy who would fall into all those categories (not that I've been looking...:p)

[azurelunatic]

Communication. *sigh*

[godai.livejournal.com]

Yeah its posts like this that makes me wish i had caught a bus from cali to visit.

[azurelunatic]

I told Narcissa and River (Julie and Deyon) to watch out for you if ever you guys run into each other at a con.

[fosfomifira.livejournal.com]

all those things are fine and I can't disagree with any of them. Problem is, I need the relationship first.