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azurelunatic) wrote2002-08-10 09:39 pm
azurelunatic) wrote2002-08-10 09:39 pm
Being Known
Decided to call Darkside to get him to laugh at my database miseries and congratulate me on the triumphs. I'm faster than speed-dial with his number, Mesa area code and all.
His mother picked up the phone. Before I could say a word: "Hi, Joanie. He's not home yet."
Ah, the wonders of Caller ID. That, and I'm the only person except project members and occasionally Dennis who calls him, and I usually call right when he gets home from work.
I find it interesting that I'm Joanie to Darkside's family. Darkside's family's standards in speaking of Darkside's friends would be set by what Darkside calls his friends at home, naturally, since I rarely have contact with Darkside's family. I briefly met his father, but was not introduced.
As a general rule, I'm addressed as Joanie only by immediate family and friends so close as to be family. The bakery was an exception: everyone called me Joanie there, because Maria's heavy accent made me not register 'Joan' from her as my name. BJ wouldn't call me Joanie without a lot of convincing. As Votania met me at school, before I knew she was going to wind up as a sister, she calls me Joan. Narcissa's friends call me Joanie, mostly, since they met me through her, and she's family. Our mutual ex-girlfriend called me Joanie.
Every new thing I learn about Darkside is a new window into his mind. Darkside presents himself far more formally in a school setting than he evidently does at home. He doesn't strike me as the type of person to use nicknames very much; he nicknamed Shrimpy that out of disgust, description, and a sense of self-preservation, as they do have the same given name.
I can't remember which name I gave Darkside when we met. Does it matter? When he addressed me as Joanie once, I commented, delighted; he became more shy and reserved after that, addressing me mostly as Joan. His parents still call me Joanie, though. He likely thinks of me as Joanie. That's good, because I do too.
His mother picked up the phone. Before I could say a word: "Hi, Joanie. He's not home yet."
Ah, the wonders of Caller ID. That, and I'm the only person except project members and occasionally Dennis who calls him, and I usually call right when he gets home from work.
I find it interesting that I'm Joanie to Darkside's family. Darkside's family's standards in speaking of Darkside's friends would be set by what Darkside calls his friends at home, naturally, since I rarely have contact with Darkside's family. I briefly met his father, but was not introduced.
As a general rule, I'm addressed as Joanie only by immediate family and friends so close as to be family. The bakery was an exception: everyone called me Joanie there, because Maria's heavy accent made me not register 'Joan' from her as my name. BJ wouldn't call me Joanie without a lot of convincing. As Votania met me at school, before I knew she was going to wind up as a sister, she calls me Joan. Narcissa's friends call me Joanie, mostly, since they met me through her, and she's family. Our mutual ex-girlfriend called me Joanie.
Every new thing I learn about Darkside is a new window into his mind. Darkside presents himself far more formally in a school setting than he evidently does at home. He doesn't strike me as the type of person to use nicknames very much; he nicknamed Shrimpy that out of disgust, description, and a sense of self-preservation, as they do have the same given name.
I can't remember which name I gave Darkside when we met. Does it matter? When he addressed me as Joanie once, I commented, delighted; he became more shy and reserved after that, addressing me mostly as Joan. His parents still call me Joanie, though. He likely thinks of me as Joanie. That's good, because I do too.
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His mom sounded so much...well, so much like a mother. I've missed my mommy. I'm being a big grown-up, and helping raise a kid... while Darkside's a year older than I am and still a kid.
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When BJ and I were engaged, he still called me Joan, even though family calls me Joanie. "JoaNIE!" I'd insist. "'Ni", he'd say.
Being the Monty Python fanatic that I am, I thought it was sweet.
When I ditched him, I kept the nickname.