Depression, dealing with

[azurelunatic]

If I'm depressed, tell me to wash and brush my hair.

If you're not sure how I'm feeling, look at my hair. The shinier, generally the happier. Hair that's been disarranged from recent exercise and there hasn't been opportunity to brush it is exempt from the rules. Hair being down tends to be a better sign than hair up.

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[n3m3sis42.livejournal.com]

I wonder if most depressed people would be as okay as you are with being told to wash/brush their hair, or if they would feel offended. I've noticed it to be a good indicator with one of my friends and always figured that telling him to bathe was a good idea, so I have, but with some misgivings about hurting his feelings. I guess I could always ask...

My hair never gets greasy--it's naturally so dry that I think I'd have to go a week without washing it before itwould do that, and I work out too much to even consider going more than a day or two... it gets messy and unkempt within a matter of minutes of being groomed, however, so the status of it isn't much of indicator of anything, or other than it being my hair.

Do you find my retarded little comments on your journal annoying? Since a lot of it it so personal, I often wonder if I have any business commenting.

[azurelunatic]

Not annoying at all. If you weren't intended to comment, you wouldn't be reading it, or it wouldn't have the comment option listed. I do use my friends filters with great happiness. Personal or not, sometimes it's better to have potentially intrusive feedback than that dread silence.

Question: does your friend feel better after washing up some? If not, then perhaps it's not such a great idea. If he does feel better in spite of himself, then it's probably a good idea.

From the inside, it's reassuring to know that people on the outside notice that something's wrong, and don't care. One of the prime demotivators towards taking care of self is that "no one notices". To have this proven otherwise is reassuring.