Azure Jane Lunatic (Azz) 🌺 (![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
azurelunatic) wrote2003-06-10 02:30 pm
azurelunatic) wrote2003-06-10 02:30 pm
Choices.
The Little Fayoumis just got a choice.
He managed, in the attempt to be watching a movie, to knock over one of the Playstation controllers, which is never a good idea. I asked him how it happened. He didn't know. I told him that since he had knocked it over, he would not be able to watch a movie right away, but he would be allowed to watch a movie an hour from now, after 3:30
I heard the beginnings of a Big Noisy Fuss. I told him that he had a choice: either he could accept watching a movie later, and watch a movie after 3:30, or he could make a Big Noisy Fuss about it and get grounded from movies today.
He managed, in the attempt to be watching a movie, to knock over one of the Playstation controllers, which is never a good idea. I asked him how it happened. He didn't know. I told him that since he had knocked it over, he would not be able to watch a movie right away, but he would be allowed to watch a movie an hour from now, after 3:30
I heard the beginnings of a Big Noisy Fuss. I told him that he had a choice: either he could accept watching a movie later, and watch a movie after 3:30, or he could make a Big Noisy Fuss about it and get grounded from movies today.
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Ok I didn't know that your entertainment unit had a parental guidance warning. That is a house rule and I guess he should have asked you to set things up for him.
What I was affraid of was that being a 5 year old (I'm pretty sure thats what you said he was), it might imprint the idea that accidents are unnacceptable even when there is no damage done. Playstation controllers are hardy things, it usually takes excessive use or heavy objects falling on them to break them, though I could see your point if it was the console that was knocked off of the shelf. Childrens psyches are hardened as they grow, and the "blows" they take are what shapes them. Everybody is affraid of mistakes and accidents to differing degrees, parental approval and discipline usually have something to do with this. I'm just saying something cause I don't like seeing children learning to be overly stressed about "the little things".
It just sounded a little strict to me. But I don't know the full story/situation so my point of view might be a little askew.
Good intentions in the soapbox,
Mike
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Believe me, I remember being a kid. And I know him, and I know the difference between when he's fucking around and shit gets knocked over, and when he knows he wasn't being careful enough and stuff gets knocked over. When it's an accident, he gets that "Oh shit I'm sorry" look, and he gets hugged and the situation gets corrected. When it's him being careless, he usually doesn't notice that he just knocked something over, and if he does, he gets the "I'm innocent, really I am" look.
The potential grounding? He's been a royal pain in the ass about accepting penalties he knows are coming to him, and puts up a yelling screaming fuss about it. That is not acceptable.
Out of the three of us adults, he behaves best for me, and accepts the penalties for breaking the rules best when I lay it down for him.
*shrug*
He's a good kid, and I aim to keep him that way, and his grandmother's ass will be *fried* if she *ever* pulls another stunt like the thing she did with him holding the door for his great-aunt when the dog got out.