Doing things the Loony way

[azurelunatic]

The Lunatic has always had a weird social balance. It's always been a dance between enough and too much social contact, and the right kind.

I'm keeping that in mind as I head into this. I have a tiny studio apartment, so privacy and time alone would ordinarily be thin on the ground right about now, except:

hcolleen works mornings. She wakes up ungodly early (I have run into her on IM some nights before I fall asleep) and leaves for work also early. By the time she gets home, I am at work. She goes to bed early, and sleeps like a rock. (Her yaoi buddies in NY tested this.)

I work evenings. I wake up around 10 to 11 on most days, get to work at noon, and work until well after her bedtime. I go to sleep around the same time she is attaining consciousness.

I wound up only seeing Sis once or twice a week on that schedule, which was actually not enough. Since this is a studio, that may well counteract the antisocial schedule problem.

The primary consideration, however, is our interaction under stress. I have been in her presence with all defenses down and not felt threatened. I cannot do that with most people, not even friends. That says a whole lot right now about how things are likely to work out. If I do not feel threatened, I do not snap. That is a good thing...

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[azurelunatic]

Another very important consideration: I grew up in a homemade Alaskan house that featured not so much in the way of partitions. There was the bathroom, the downstairs with a kitchen area, and the upstairs. Four people lived in there. With clever shelf placement, H and I have that same level of privacy, with one crucial difference: we have a bathroom with a real door (not a curtain), and it locks.