From the discussion here...I can follow kid-logic to some extent, but not quite enough. Not yet. My empathy's not quite on enough yet to do that. Wide-open, for me, is very scarily little, even with Darkside, unless he's broadcasting loudly...
...and I can't stay open. I think that's the key point there. If I am that wide open, which I think I was for a few months somewhere back there, I can't let anyone touch me except a select few, or even get near me. For a while, I would only let Shamash, Darkside, Adam, Dawn, and Neighbor touch me, and then only sometimes. I got panic attacks otherwise, nasty human-too-close claustrophobia.
I don't need that much empathy to work with older kids.
I'm going to have to work on narrowband empathy shields. I have a great one with Darkside: when it's not blocked off (we each have complete control over filters on our own side of it) we are completely wide open to each other, and no one else. Not even someone else who's logged in to one of us can access that link: it's been tried, and they were booted, quite roughly. Heck, when Dagger tried to link with Darkside's "Peter Pan" subset, she was booted.
I guess I'm going to have to get used to progressively younger children, so I'll know I'll be able to deal with babies when I do have one.