Visitors

My mother, father, and one paternal aunt arrived yesterday around three-ish. Long hot drive. They settled in fairly well, met most household characters: Votania, Marxdarx, Shamash, Nephew ... but not Adam. Adam is still Out. He said he'd be back within twelve hours, when he called in last night slightly before eleven, and that he would like to meet my parents.

It was perhaps just as well that he wasn't around for dinner, because I'm not used to cooking to feed a small army. I never would have thought that you'd need so much soup... nor that everybody could eat it all.

FatherSir tried to get to know Nephew for a while. Nephew was right in the middle of a computer game, since yesterday was game day for him, and he didn't communicate so well. Finally, FatherSir retreated to a book, after attempting to rebalance the living room fan, which had been set on high for some reason and was shaking. Not much rebalancing actually happened.

There was a nice battle royal between Adults of Household and Nephew over the soup. Nephew is a picky eater. When he doesn't know what it is, especially if I cook it, he won't eat it. He was a lot better about it than usual, though, no crying and screaming until being told that since he had not eaten it nicely and had kicked up a fuss about it, he would not be getting dessert.

My parents got my room, cat-free, and I toiok the couch.

Votania woke up late this morning, and my aunt is driving her to work. My parents are still generally unconscious.

Darkside the Grouch

Am playing an April Fool's prank on Darkside. He may be under the impression that my parents are only staying for one day. I do not think he will be expecting to meet them on Monday morning early...

I called him last night and talked for a few minutes. Crowds, even if they are crowds of my nearest and dearest, still make me run and hide. Darkside only rarely crowds me. He scolded me for running off and hiding in my room to call him.

I suppose there isn't a way of explaining that I always withdraw from very close contact with people for very long, with only a few exceptions. He's never seen that side of me.

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Took advantage of Adam's absence and his stated permission to do whatever I wanted to, last night. Very nice. With Adam, the pleasure is stretched out and comfortable and things take a while and there's a lot of loving emotional happiness mixed in and around.

With R, things are a lot shorter, a lot faster, a lot more intense. Lots of NRE going on. Something about the way he and I physically fit together is exciting. But there's little to none of the emotional security that I have with Adam.

If I had to choose one, I'd choose the emotional half, the part of a relationship that allows me to snuggle up to someone when I sleep. I was never able to snuggle up to BJ like that, past the first few days we shared the same bed. The longer I share a bed with Adam, the more I'm able to snuggle up. I can't sleep next to R, not in a bed. I can use him as a pillow on the couch and sleep like that, but not side by side in a bed.

Walk

Mama, Aunt C., FatherSir, Nephew, and I all went on a jog/walk along the canal. Ducks in the canal; shopping carts and fish also. Nephew and I walked along the canal for a while some weeks ago while somebody was getting chewed out.

Hot out there.

FatherSir is reading with Nephew. Nephew doesn't have much of an attention span. He's paying attention for FatherSir, though, Nephew is already calling my father "FatherSir" like I do, or "Sir Father." He bonds with men, hoping one of them will be his father.

Visiting

It being a Sunday, and Easter to boot, not very much in the way of touristy stuff was open. We went jogging, then hung around the house. I helped Rachel from school move her boyfriend's stuff out. Resultantly, we have some new lamps and a new chair that Rachel's bf didn't feel like taking with him.

Votania made dinner, and it was excellent. Nephew has bonded very well with FatherSir, and adores him. We all went swimming.

Lease! [forward-dated from 2002 02 28 11:56]

Just a reminder... lease expires!