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Nephew has his first white hair. I discovered it at the mall when getting my glasses fixed. He's, what, five? He's getting it from my side of the family, probably, since my father had a generous sprinkling of white hairs by the time he'd graduated high school.
Aug. 10th, 2002
Watched Mortal Kombat: Annihilation with Votania and Nephew last night. Rather, watched half of it, the first half: I fell asleep in the middle of it. After it was over, I went to bed and fell asleep around ten or so.
I've been popping my eyes open at four these days, checking the clock, then crashing out again once it becomes apparent that it's not time for me to be awake yet. I was planning on staying in bed until eight this morning; clearly that's not going to happen.
Anime club is today; that should be fun.
But what's up with the 4? Echoes, I suppose. I should come to expect things like this with the attunement.
I've been popping my eyes open at four these days, checking the clock, then crashing out again once it becomes apparent that it's not time for me to be awake yet. I was planning on staying in bed until eight this morning; clearly that's not going to happen.
Anime club is today; that should be fun.
But what's up with the 4? Echoes, I suppose. I should come to expect things like this with the attunement.
Psychset of Venn Diagrams
Aug. 10th, 2002 08:23 amEver since I learned what a Venn Diagram was at about 7 or so, I've been organizing my mind into them. I don't know how many dimensions it has to be organized in in order to make sense of all the intersections, but that's how my mind works, in a series of hierarchial hyperspheres.
I'm analyzing why I had such a severe reaction to the thought of Darkside being Christian, and I think I've come up with one of the primary, strongest reasons.
There are Venn Diagrams in my head, and I map out things by their intersection. Formerly, the set of the intersection of "Intimate relationship with", "Male", and "Christian" contained exactly two members: BJ and Adam.
When my mind found that Darkside fit in this category as well, and did a lookup on the shared characteristics of the set, I flipped, as some of the shared characteristics of the set are ones that I would not want to see in Darkside, nor anyone I'm planning to be marrying, or in a very long-term relationship with. (Sorry, Adam. It was fun, and nice, and I still do care about you, but... there's no future there...) My mind's attempt to assign Darkside the shared characteristics of the set set off alarms, which was the exact right thing to do, since many of those don't fit Darkside at all; he wouldn't be Darkside otherwise.
My mind's got query-sets it goes through upon meeting someone. When Dorothy came to Oz, one of her first questions was: "Are you a good witch or a bad witch?"
Knowing that both excellent things and horrible things have been done in the name of religion, my query-set includes religion, or lack thereof; internal consistency of and to same religion; intent; and then the list of the prejudices/background knowledge I have about the initial categories that the new person falls into. I'm always willing to make a new category for someone, but my alarms go off if they fall into an intersection set that shares some rather nasty characteristics.
On the other hand, I have a favorable predisposition towards anyone who is a Quaker (Meeting with my father was always interesting and peaceful, and the people at Hidden Hill were great fun), or the intersection of "female", and "Catholic" (my first fiancée), even though the people involved are not necessarily as nice as the others in the set.
I'm analyzing why I had such a severe reaction to the thought of Darkside being Christian, and I think I've come up with one of the primary, strongest reasons.
There are Venn Diagrams in my head, and I map out things by their intersection. Formerly, the set of the intersection of "Intimate relationship with", "Male", and "Christian" contained exactly two members: BJ and Adam.
When my mind found that Darkside fit in this category as well, and did a lookup on the shared characteristics of the set, I flipped, as some of the shared characteristics of the set are ones that I would not want to see in Darkside, nor anyone I'm planning to be marrying, or in a very long-term relationship with. (Sorry, Adam. It was fun, and nice, and I still do care about you, but... there's no future there...) My mind's attempt to assign Darkside the shared characteristics of the set set off alarms, which was the exact right thing to do, since many of those don't fit Darkside at all; he wouldn't be Darkside otherwise.
My mind's got query-sets it goes through upon meeting someone. When Dorothy came to Oz, one of her first questions was: "Are you a good witch or a bad witch?"
Knowing that both excellent things and horrible things have been done in the name of religion, my query-set includes religion, or lack thereof; internal consistency of and to same religion; intent; and then the list of the prejudices/background knowledge I have about the initial categories that the new person falls into. I'm always willing to make a new category for someone, but my alarms go off if they fall into an intersection set that shares some rather nasty characteristics.
On the other hand, I have a favorable predisposition towards anyone who is a Quaker (Meeting with my father was always interesting and peaceful, and the people at Hidden Hill were great fun), or the intersection of "female", and "Catholic" (my first fiancée), even though the people involved are not necessarily as nice as the others in the set.
I like quiet days with nothing to do but housecleaning. I sprayed down the oven with the gunk, and will be scrubbing it out after it's had a while to sit there and do what it's supposed to do.
It sounds like it's a Duran Duran morning on 96.9.
Anime club is in about an hour and a half. I should go work out once Votania comes back, so I won't spend the whole day sitting on my behind, before heading off.
I'm surviving summer here quite well. My body temperature's kicked up from what it used to be; this is a survival mechanism. My body's also doing some interesting things regarding what I'm able to eat. Last night, I wound up feeling far too full from two grilled cheese sandwiches with fried tomatoes and a big glass of juice. Votania says I've been losing a lot of weight, and pointed me towards a photo of me from a year and a half ago. It's still me, but evidently you can really see how much weight I've lost in my face.
It sounds like it's a Duran Duran morning on 96.9.
Anime club is in about an hour and a half. I should go work out once Votania comes back, so I won't spend the whole day sitting on my behind, before heading off.
I'm surviving summer here quite well. My body temperature's kicked up from what it used to be; this is a survival mechanism. My body's also doing some interesting things regarding what I'm able to eat. Last night, I wound up feeling far too full from two grilled cheese sandwiches with fried tomatoes and a big glass of juice. Votania says I've been losing a lot of weight, and pointed me towards a photo of me from a year and a half ago. It's still me, but evidently you can really see how much weight I've lost in my face.
Brotherly Love
Aug. 10th, 2002 11:54 amNephew considers Shamash his brother now, which is about the social dynamic we're seeing between them. Sometimes they play together nicely, sometimes Nephew bothers Shamash, and sometimes Nephew starts crying that Shamash is bothering him. (This very often has a strong element of Nephew having bothered Shamash first.)
At least he's not completely an only child.
I shudder to consider what will happen when Nephew and Echo's Princess are living as siblings. "Son, don't whammy your sister -- and you, honey, had better teach your brother that little trick of getting the fireballs through shields."
At least he's not completely an only child.
I shudder to consider what will happen when Nephew and Echo's Princess are living as siblings. "Son, don't whammy your sister -- and you, honey, had better teach your brother that little trick of getting the fireballs through shields."
I think I like SQL. Nice and logical. I revel in logic. This may have been partially due to Mr. Spock, who I thought was excellently cool. I loved logic before I got along with Spock, though.
HowEVER. If I have to use Microshit Access much longer, which is NOT standard SQL (which my textbooks are), I am going to scream at it again.
HowEVER. If I have to use Microshit Access much longer, which is NOT standard SQL (which my textbooks are), I am going to scream at it again.
Lighted, lighted, laughing too.
Aug. 10th, 2002 05:42 pmI have a love/hate relationship with computers and programs. When it's going well, I adore it. When it's not, I scream and yowl.
Currently, I love SQL, as long as I come to grips with the fact that Microsoft's put its own spices in it: pissed in it so it'll like the flavour, as Heinlein put it.
Currently, I love SQL, as long as I come to grips with the fact that Microsoft's put its own spices in it: pissed in it so it'll like the flavour, as Heinlein put it.
All done with the happy first database lab. I am excellently pleased. My zip drive is working, and I have M$ Access on my home computer. Now I must make with the science homework, I suppose: get those done so I won't have to do them later when I'll be more busy.
Oh, yes, and some swimming and/or more working out (rather than just the 10-15 minute quickie this morning) would be nice. Oh, and the laundry? If that's not too much for one little Lunatic to do.
Oh, yes, and some swimming and/or more working out (rather than just the 10-15 minute quickie this morning) would be nice. Oh, and the laundry? If that's not too much for one little Lunatic to do.
Being Known
Aug. 10th, 2002 09:39 pmDecided to call Darkside to get him to laugh at my database miseries and congratulate me on the triumphs. I'm faster than speed-dial with his number, Mesa area code and all.
His mother picked up the phone. Before I could say a word: "Hi, Joanie. He's not home yet."
Ah, the wonders of Caller ID. That, and I'm the only person except project members and occasionally Dennis who calls him, and I usually call right when he gets home from work.
I find it interesting that I'm Joanie to Darkside's family. Darkside's family's standards in speaking of Darkside's friends would be set by what Darkside calls his friends at home, naturally, since I rarely have contact with Darkside's family. I briefly met his father, but was not introduced.
As a general rule, I'm addressed as Joanie only by immediate family and friends so close as to be family. The bakery was an exception: everyone called me Joanie there, because Maria's heavy accent made me not register 'Joan' from her as my name. BJ wouldn't call me Joanie without a lot of convincing. As Votania met me at school, before I knew she was going to wind up as a sister, she calls me Joan. Narcissa's friends call me Joanie, mostly, since they met me through her, and she's family. Our mutual ex-girlfriend called me Joanie.
Every new thing I learn about Darkside is a new window into his mind. Darkside presents himself far more formally in a school setting than he evidently does at home. He doesn't strike me as the type of person to use nicknames very much; he nicknamed Shrimpy that out of disgust, description, and a sense of self-preservation, as they do have the same given name.
I can't remember which name I gave Darkside when we met. Does it matter? When he addressed me as Joanie once, I commented, delighted; he became more shy and reserved after that, addressing me mostly as Joan. His parents still call me Joanie, though. He likely thinks of me as Joanie. That's good, because I do too.
His mother picked up the phone. Before I could say a word: "Hi, Joanie. He's not home yet."
Ah, the wonders of Caller ID. That, and I'm the only person except project members and occasionally Dennis who calls him, and I usually call right when he gets home from work.
I find it interesting that I'm Joanie to Darkside's family. Darkside's family's standards in speaking of Darkside's friends would be set by what Darkside calls his friends at home, naturally, since I rarely have contact with Darkside's family. I briefly met his father, but was not introduced.
As a general rule, I'm addressed as Joanie only by immediate family and friends so close as to be family. The bakery was an exception: everyone called me Joanie there, because Maria's heavy accent made me not register 'Joan' from her as my name. BJ wouldn't call me Joanie without a lot of convincing. As Votania met me at school, before I knew she was going to wind up as a sister, she calls me Joan. Narcissa's friends call me Joanie, mostly, since they met me through her, and she's family. Our mutual ex-girlfriend called me Joanie.
Every new thing I learn about Darkside is a new window into his mind. Darkside presents himself far more formally in a school setting than he evidently does at home. He doesn't strike me as the type of person to use nicknames very much; he nicknamed Shrimpy that out of disgust, description, and a sense of self-preservation, as they do have the same given name.
I can't remember which name I gave Darkside when we met. Does it matter? When he addressed me as Joanie once, I commented, delighted; he became more shy and reserved after that, addressing me mostly as Joan. His parents still call me Joanie, though. He likely thinks of me as Joanie. That's good, because I do too.
Observations, friends...
Aug. 10th, 2002 11:16 pmThe thing I've learned from introducing friends:
The two shy, reserved, ex-boy-scout RPG and anime freak guys who are both elementally Fire will dislike each other, even though they're practically neighbors and are very much alike. This is because both of them think that the other one is a LOSER!
The two hard-headed destructive violent bitch-queen friends of mine will hate each other with charming similarity.
The guy who doesn't want to date me will hate all the guys I want to date.
The two shy, reserved, ex-boy-scout RPG and anime freak guys who are both elementally Fire will dislike each other, even though they're practically neighbors and are very much alike. This is because both of them think that the other one is a LOSER!
The two hard-headed destructive violent bitch-queen friends of mine will hate each other with charming similarity.
The guy who doesn't want to date me will hate all the guys I want to date.