I wrote this back a few years, but stumbled across it recently. It doesn't include many details of the mechanics of what we were negotiating, but there are some vague mentions of putting sheets over unnamed club equipment (standard practice for any playspace furniture that might get sweated on). I have a kink filter, but this is a public entry.

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The other night at the club, someone and I wound up doing something that turned into an emotionally intense scene. The scene itself was sufficiently personal that I wouldn't presume to ask the other party about me sharing the details. What jumped out at me was the negotiation sequence.

The other party and I have played together enough to be comfortable. So it went kind of like this:

( A conversation in the cozy atmosphere of the club. )

This wasn't really what I tend to think of, when I think about negotiation. I tend to think that it's starting from a less intimately connected place. I tend to think that it's a little more formal. I tend to think that it's not necessarily conducted in the hour before it actually happens. I tend to think that it's not actually inside the club. I tend to think that there's a little more physical and emotional distance.

But this counts as negotiation too.